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Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

7-Quick Takes

Join Jen and the other Quicktakers over at the Conversion Diary.

1. I think I mentioned before that Sam is an official Soccer Ref this season. He took and passed the $65 course and then we shelled out another $75 for shirts, shorts, socks, whistle, and other stuff that came in the kit. However he has only been able to get one game this week, one next and then one in mid-May so far. I estimated that at roughly $20 per game he will have to do more than 8 to break even - and that doesn't take into consideration the cost of gas to the games! I really hate how they are assigning games this year.

When Calvin was a soccer ref, they had a site where he or I could log in and then snap up as many games as we could handle. The assignors could take away a game if they needed to but for the most part, Calvin had a game just about every night during soccer season.

This year I had to give the assignors Sam's availability and they were supposed to assign him. When we never heard from them I started watching e-mails for open games which is a lot more difficult to wait for. I was hoping he would be able to make a couple of hundred during soccer season (one year Calvin made $600!) but I think those days are long gone.

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2. Got Sam's ACT scores back and they were a little disappointing. I felt kind of bd about it but I bought the McGraw-Hill's ACT, 2010 Edition (Mcgraw Hill's Act), paid for the online Prep Program. The rest was kind of up to Sam. I think he gets that now. I'm so glad we took it this spring so now he can try it again next fall.

As an interesting aside, I guess you're allowed to take it up to 12 times! - good to know!


3. So as soon as I finished analyzing Sam's scores I started to come up with strategies to make his score higher, and the first thought I had was, "I've got to call mom to see if she has any ideas about this English score." And in the same interest I realized I couldn't call her and I would never be able to call her and I felt so incredibly sad and alone.

4. I will say though that last year I had Sam read the Scarlet Letter, Moby Dick, some Washington Irving and Huckleberry Finn - and the literature part of the English score was the highest!

5. Baby Josie Duggar went back into the hospital last week and I haven't heard any updates on her yet.  The whole situation reminded me of discussions I had previously regarding life or death pregnancy decisions for the mother and the baby. The Duggar's aren't Catholic, but I think their entire situation beautifully illustrates the Catholic moral teachings on proportionate reasons and secondary effect.  Mrs. Duggar was very, sick with pre-eclampsia.  She was delivered at 25 weeks, even if such a delivery could have ended the life of the child, because her condition was that proportionately dire.  The baby has been treated and given medical care since then and even despite this most recent set back, is expected to do recover. This was all the way around, the right and good way to handle the situation.

6.  Have my first wedding rehearsal of the season tonight and am looking forward to it.

7.  In the room behind me I can hear my little girl playing with her dolls and doing all of the voices, "Hi, my name is Tinkerbell!"  I can also hear my teenage sons downstairs practicing their rock band.  Such is life.!


Bonus - A picture of Mr. Pete and me as drawn by Miss Rosie!
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