Monday, May 02, 2016

Simple Woman






Outside my window...

Irene's funeral and May 1 2016 099


I am thinking...
About the weekend, the funeral, and all of my in-laws who came together for that event. It was wonderful to see everyone and to be in touch with them, and it was also heartbreaking to say good bye again, knowing that we won't see each other again until another wedding, or a funeral.
13102663_10154086667291678_1296686996260806310_n

I am thankful...

to have married into such a warm and wonderful family.


In the kitchen...

No clue. I'm guessing roasted chicken with salad.

I am wearing...
Black capris, black T shirt and black cover up.

I am reading...



Awesome book- that I am going to incorporate into Izzy's health class next year - chock full of good advice and examples.

I am pondering...
at the end of her life, my sister-in-law Irene, asked her sister, if she thought she had been good enough to go to heaven.

I have been thinking about that a lot. Irene was raised Catholic, baptized, confirmed, and received the sacrament of Penance. But she rejected her Catholic faith as an adult. She didn't go to church and she didn't practice any other belief. She did pray with us as a family at the reunions, and she did say the rosary with her own sister when she was dying. But other than that, as far as we can tell, she wasn't practicing any other faith. She did work as an ICU nurse, and she was very good at that - comforting the sick and caring for the dying are very Christian acts of love and mercy. She was also very generous with her family, especially her younger siblings.

Wishing to go to Heaven is choosing NOT to go to hell. So it is my belief that in this Year of Mercy, we can have hope of meeting again someday in Purgatory, as we complete our pilgrimages towards Heaven.

I am going...
From the Learning Rooms...

In the homestretch now!  World History will be over this week- (Although the AP test is May 12!)
20 Years of Homeschooling!

Noah- Senior


Izzy-Junior

Rosie 5th grade
Partnership Writing



One of my favorite things...

Untitled
While in Michigan, we stopped by the cemetery to pay our respects to my grandparents and uncle. As per usual, we couldn't find them, although we were pretty close. We kept forgetting exactly which section they were in. So when we finally did find them, Rosie posed in the form of an X so that from this time forward, we will always remember that they are buried in section X!

Another favorite thing...
upload
A quote to share...

…it never occurs to Sir William Joynson-Hicks that…Purgatory may exist whether he likes it or not. If it be true, however incredible it may seem, that the powers ruling the universe think that a politician or a lawyer can reach the point of death, without being in that perfect ecstasy of purity that can see God and live- why then there may be cosmic conditions corresponding to that paradox, and there is an end of it. It may be obvious to us that the politician is already utterly sinless, at one with the saints. It may be evident to us that the lawyer is already utterly selfless, filled only with God and forgetful of the very meaning of gain. But if the cosmic power holds that there are still some strange finishing touches, beyond our fancy, to put to his perfection, then certainly there will be some cosmic provision for that mysterious completion of the seemingly complete. The stars are not clean in His sight and His angels He chargeth with folly; and if He should decide that even in a Home Secretary there is room for improvement, we can but admit that omniscience can heal the defect that we cannot even see.

G.K. Chesterton

A picture to share...


upload
Mr. Pete and his entire family, circa 1968.





Custom Search

Friday, April 29, 2016

7-Quick Takes

 photo seven-quick-takes-friday-2-300x213_zps0988a8ef.jpg
Join the other Quicktakers at This Ain't the Lyceum


1. One of the funniest things I read on Facebook last week:
"Wow! Andrew Jackson, a racist populist who has for generations been honored as a founding father of the Democratic Party, will be replaced on the Twenty Dollar Bill by Harriet Tubman, a black, gun-toting, evangelical Christian, Republican woman. There is some justice in the world after all!" --- Robby George

2. Today I am going to my sister-in-law's funeral. Mr. Pete is cantoring and I am playing my flute. We had to learn the Mass of Creation for this event. We sort of knew it, but our parish hasn't played it since the new translation came out in 2010 - so it's familiar, but just different enough to throw us off - frustrating!! and of course the Eucharistic responses are brand new.



3. We are also playing with an unknown organist - we haven't met her, but she plays for the church where the funeral is being held. This too is a source of anxiety for me. This person could be truly great - or not.

One time I was hired for a wedding and had to play with an organist who worked for that particular church. She had been in that position for over 40 years and I had been told that she was great. It turned out that she was rather hard to work with. It wasn't that her technique was bad, but rather that she believed she was a soloist instead of an accompanist and so she altered the tempo at will, replayed phrases just for the heck of it, and then stopped one song abruptly and without warning. By the end of that event I pretty much just let her do her own thing - can't fight a pipe organ with a flute!

4. This is not the first time Mr. Pete and I have done a difficult funeral together. At my mother's funeral he and I played the Celtic Farewell for the final commendation. It was a very emotional time anyway, but to play at the end was particularly hard. I kept it together by remembering all of the flute lessons my mother had payed for and how I didn't want to let her down now! That was enough to hold it together.

5. Because of the funeral, I am unable to be at Noah's Senior Night for track - UGGGHHH!!! Long time readers might remember that Noah couldn't run track his senior year because at the time it was illegal for homeschoolers to participate in school sports. His sophomore year, Noah got a stress fracture in his shin and missed the second half of the year. Then last year, he broke his clavicle! This year, it looks like he might just letter (if he doesn't break anything else) but I am a little disappointed that I can't be there for his Senior recognition. My sister is filling in for me, and I have another mom on the track team to be backup in case she can't make it - so Noah will not be motherless for this event!

6. The best part of any funeral? Catching up with family and friends that we have not seen for years. This is the case this time as well - especially with some of Mr. Pete's siblings that we have not seen in years. Rosie is particularly happy to get reacquainted with her God parents!

DSCF0088


7. Please pray for the repose of my sister-in-law's soul
Irene Memorial Card v2


Custom Search

Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Life without NFP: A 50-something Wife Looks Back #TOBtalk

I'm being featured on Catholicmom.com today during their special focus on The Theology of the Body. #TOBtalk.  Here's an excerpt -


That first baby started our reversion back into our Catholic faith. We wanted to live an authentically Catholic lifestyle and as we learned more and more, we came to understand that NFP was only an option for us if we had strong reasons for avoiding or postponing a pregnancy; it wasn’t supposed to be a lifestyle choice! And figuring that out, for us anyway, was very freeing because it made us really look at our priorities and our lives.
See the entire article at Catholicmom.com

#tobtalk quotes LaVictoire CatholicMom.com IG (1)





Custom Search

Monday, April 25, 2016

Simple Woman






Outside my window...
Advent 2015 006
or in this case - inside my window!

I am thinking...
about the concert I played yesterday. Mr. Pete and I had a concert at the big theater downtown, while our kids had a concert at church at approximately the same time. Neither concert had very many people in the audience. Our concert had a lot of children in it, but as soon as the kids were done performing, they left with their parents. Except for very, very young children, I think that is really rude - but it seems to be very common in this area.

A few years ago the kids were in a piano recital with another studio and while we sat through all of the other children's pieces, but each performer left as soon as they were done playing!  The kids at the end of the recital basically just played for their teacher and a handful of other folks. Parents really need to teach their kids the art of going to a performance and sitting through the entire thing.

The concert at the church was also sparsely attended.  I think with the nicer weather, and sports activities, as well as lawns that need attention after the winter, it's probably just a bad time to have a musical concert.  January or February works much better. Maybe even March.

I am thankful...
for all of my in-laws, whom I will be seeing this weekend as we gather to bury our oldest sister.
Irene Memorial Card v2


In the kitchen...
pork chops and salsa with salad!

I am wearing...

or rather I wore and I will wear, a new black dress that I got online from J. C. Penney - it runs a bit small but it is very feminine and comfortable. I wore it to the concert yesterday for a performance and I will be wearing it for the funeral this week.

Simply Liliana Banded Sheath Dress
I am reading...
Nothing this week - trying to learn the Mass of Creation again - relieved that we don't do the Gloria for a funeral!




I am pondering...
The late Mother Angelica said: We hide the truth from people to be "pastoral," I don't think leading someone to hell is pastoral."

To put it in terms that our non-Christian friends will understand - this whole transgendered bathroom business is really the same thing as the emperor with no clothes! No one wants to say the truth that there is something wrong and unhealthy about supporting someone's delusion that they think they are what they are not. Instead of feeding into this fantasy and encouraging expensive and dangerous procedures, why aren't we supporting their mental health care?  Why isn't this a mental health issue?

I am going...
From the Learning Rooms...

In the homestretch now!  World History will be over first week of May - (Although the AP test is May 12!)
20 Years of Homeschooling!

Noah- Senior


  • Pre-calculus
  • AP World History  
  • Government.  I have to say, I am not happy with this government program. I chose it because I thought it would be great for the kids to watch the DVDs together. However, the extra reading is ponderous and frankly - dull.  I need my kids to understand government and I don't care if they don't read all of the original documents (The Magna Carta?  Federalist papers?) in high school.  That said, Noah is plowing ahead and I will call this honors Government. Izzy and I are doing something else. 


  • Piano
  • Choir and bell choir
Izzy-Junior

  • Algebra II
  • American History  2   
  • American Literature  Animal Farm - which is a nice tie in with government!
  • American Government in Christian Perspective (A Beka)  - OK I got this book at a bargain bin many years ago I used it with my second son Sam. It's fine (although also a little heavy on the history at the beginning). However, it is by the very anti-Catholic publisher A Beka, so reading the text as it tries to squirm it's way around to avoid Catholicism is hilarious! I'll be on the look for something else for Rosie.
  • Spelling
  • Sign Language
  • Art Class
  • Doing a Bravewriter writing class the next few weeks - what a giant step for Izzy!
Rosie 5th grade
Partnership Writing



One of my favorite things...
is to go to "Senior Night" when one of my athletes. is graduating. I was so looking forward to going to Senior Night for Noah and track, but as it turns out I can't because of the funeral. My sister has kindly agreed to step in for me - but it will be a moment that I will regret missing for some time to come.




A quote to share...
We hide the truth from people to be "pastoral," I don't think leading someone to hell is pastoral."-- Mother Angelica~

A picture to share...

september 2015 039

I am going to be super busy this week - blogging will be sporadic at best!






Custom Search

Friday, April 22, 2016

7-Quick takes

 photo seven-quick-takes-friday-2-300x213_zps0988a8ef.jpg
Join the other Quicktakers at This Ain't the Lyceum


1. One of my in-law's children has come out as transgendered. It didn't surprise me and it's been coming for a long time. But I was surprised at how much it hurt to see the first name get changed. This particular child had been given the name of a beloved and dear member of the family who passed on about 16 years ago. Somehow, having another family member with that name was comforting - a living memorial and honor for the deceased. But with the change in gender, the first name had to be changed as well since there was no equivalent in the other gender -and it sort of stung a little.
Lavictoire family babies 1990
2. The long-awaited funeral for my sister-in-law could be a wonderful gathering of siblings to love and comfort each other - or it could be highly uncomfortable and full of much angst. Some of the siblings are highly liberal, some are very conservative - and it seems to be much more divided among the younger cousins, although I'm not sure how many of them will attend. Hopefully we can just focus on good memories and family ties and keep away from certain hot button topics. I intend to wire my jaw shut, at least figuratively.

3. Noah, the young man who intends to pursue the priesthood, is going to two proms this spring. With the prom tickets themselves costing over $40 and then dinner and other costs, I decided to just buy him a suit instead of renting two temporary tuxedos. It turns out, the difference between a suit and a tux is the inclusion of satin on the lapels and on the pants. There's something about the waist band too. But since a classic good suit is always in style we decided to go that route. We went to Men's Warehouse, where they were having a two for one sale and he got a beautiful classic black suit, and a more casual gray suit - he should be all set for many years to come. We didn't have the money to get Calvin a suit when he was graduating from high school, but I did get suits for Sam and Gabe. Sam has since lost the pants to one suit and Gabe out grew his. I am hoping that Noah will learn from his brother's mistakes - or else it is just like throwing good money after bad. We'll see.
002

4. Both proms are coming up fast. The first young lady asked him months ago and then he didn't hear from her until she texted him about his height, so she could decide what shoes to buy. The other young lady is our neighbor and goddaughter. They are more like brother and sister (and fight like it too) so that should be an interesting evening. In between those two proms, is the homeschool dance with his sister. So those suits should get a good workout just in their first month of ownership!

Calvin getting down at the Senior Prom

5. I have still not figured out graduation. But since the client I work for his taking the entire month of May off, I am thinking I'll just clean up the house, and have it here. Why not?

6. Izzy and Noah are done with Apologia chemistry. They both enjoyed the class and got good grades from the science teacher in the lab work. But Izzy never did well on the tests, although she did the daily work. Apologia suggests grading on just the labs and the tests, giving more weight to the tests than to the labs. But I don't think that's very fair to someone who has actually worked pretty regularly on the course but can't seem to manage the testing, so I am giving 50% to the daily work (since most of the course is doing the work daily) 35% to the lab work which required preparing for the labs, doing the experiments, and then writing a lab report, and the rest to the tests. This will adequately and more fairly represent how both kids worked in the class.
A scene from our 20 th year of homeschooling.
7. That said, as I get ready for homeschooling just my two girls next year, I am struggling to find just "career oriented" curriculum for Izzy. I think this might be a sort of snobbishness in the homeschooling industry that seems to think that successful homeschooling of course must mean college prep courses and acceptance to college! But I know quite a few homeschoolers who have gone directly into work, or trade school, or even the military. So why don't the curriculum choices reflect that?




Custom Search

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Simple Woman






Outside my window...
april 2016 024

The dead brown petals on my magnolia tree - I know they are going to make a big mess when they finally drop off.

I am thinking...
About my kid coming back from Manipuelation in Idylewood, CA hopefully tonight.

This was a gathering of "object manipulators."  By this definition of object, "a material thing that can be seen and touched, "  I have been an object manipulator for my entire life!  In fact, as I write this post, I am manipulating the object known as "keyboard."  Earlier this evening I was manipulating an object known as a stove, a food processor, and various kitchen utensils!


I am thankful...
That they had a good time, and still keeping fingers crossed that they get all the way home safely.

In the kitchen...
I am in carbohydrate hell.  My runners have to eat high carb especially before races.  Because Noah has had races the past two school days, I have been making our big daily meal at lunch time. Tonight I sliced potatoes and cooked them with some ham, cheese, peas, and cream of mushroom soup (gluten free) and made a nice casserole.  I'll be glad to get back to our usual meat and a veggie routine tomorrow.

I am wearing...
A skort!  and a t shirt.  It's nice weather for it finally.


I am reading...




I am pondering...
the civil war now that we are closing our study of it.  I highly recommend Ken Burns: The Civil War (Commemorative Edition)





I am going...
Untitled

and I even had to write my own flute part last week - it took two days!

From the Learning Rooms...

In the homestretch now!  Tomorrow is the last day of co-op for chemistry and World History will be over first week of May - (Although the AP test is the middle of May!)
20 Years of Homeschooling!

Noah- Senior


Izzy-Junior

Rosie 5th grade
Untitled


Partnership Writing
  • Prairie Primer  Starting 
  • Spelling 
  • Geography
  • Anatomy and Physiology - starting the integumentery system this week.
Apologia Exploring Creation with Human Anatomy and Physiology   -     By: Jeannie Fulbright
  • Choir- co-op
  • Art Class



One of my favorite things...

Untitled


A quote to share...
Life is often compared to a marathon, but I think it is more like being a sprinter; long stretches of hard work punctuated by brief moments in which we are given the opportunity to perform at our best. 
Michael Johnson

A picture to share...

April 16 and 17 2016 098 rosie running in
















Custom Search
Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...