Monday, July 06, 2015

Lessons from the Martyrdom of Maria Goretti

One of my favorite saints celebrates a feast today- St. Maria Goretti.

  Universalis web site tells us:

Maria impressed everyone with her radiant purity. She was naturally pious, kind, and helpful. She was also outstandingly beautiful – and Alessandro Serenelli was an outstandingly passionate and undisciplined man. She resisted his attentions, which only made her the more desirable, and narrowly managed to escape a serious sexual assault, which he made her keep secret by means of threats of murder.
A month later Alessandro arranged things so that he would be alone in the house with Maria; and he had a dagger. She tried to resist, begging him to have care for his immortal soul, but he thrust a handkerchief into her mouth to prevent her from crying out, tied her up, and threatened her with the dagger. She could, the theologians say, have consented then, with no danger to her soul; but her love of purity was too great. Alessandro, enraged, stabbed her fourteen times.
She did not die, though her entrails were hanging out from one of her abdominal wounds. She was taken to hospital, seven miles of bad road in a horse-drawn ambulance, and was operated on for more than two hours. She lived for twenty hours more, became a Child of Mary, received the Last Sacrament, and specifically forgave her murderer. She died in the afternoon of 6 July 1902, at the age of eleven years, eight months, and twenty days.
Another version of Maria's story is here. 

Quite a few feminists over the years have expressed their disgust at the Catholic Church for honoring a girl who decided it was better to die than to just give into her rapist. They seemed to see her death as a defeat, as if because she failed to survive, she was weak and unworthy of admiration from other young women.

But I don't see it that way. I was more impressed that despite her youth and inexperience, Maria stood up for what she believed, even in the face of death, and if she was going to have to accept consequences for what she believed -so be it. That she died on her own terms was a very real victory to my mind.

I think that's something important to remember today. So many of us are facing division and heated arguments with family members and friends over the current events that challenge our beliefs as Christians and Catholics. Could we be as brave as Maria in standing up for what we believe? in living life according to our faith?

A few years ago, I blogged about her murderer:
Alessandro Serenelli was the young man who brutally murdered St. Maria Goretti. After years of defiance and hard heartedness, he eventually repented, and was even present at Maria's canonization many years later. In fact he sat next to Maria's mother!

In old age Alessandro wrote:

"I'm nearly 80 years old. I'm about to depart.
"Looking back at my past, I can see that in my early youth, I chose a bad path which led me to ruin myself.

"My behavior was influenced by print, mass-media and bad examples which are followed by the majority of young people without even thinking. And I did the same. I was not worried.

"There were a lot of generous and devoted people who surrounded me, but I paid no attention to them because a violent force blinded me and pushed me toward a wrong way of life.

"When I was 20 years-old, I committed a crime of passion. Now, that memory represents something horrible for me. Maria Goretti, now a Saint, was my good Angel, sent to me through Providence to guide and save me. I still have impressed upon my heart her words of rebuke and of pardon. She prayed for me, she interceded for her murderer. Thirty years of prison followed.

"If I had been of age, I would have spent all my life in prison. I accepted to be condemned because it was my own fault.

"Little Maria was really my light, my protectress; with her help, I behaved well during the 27 years of prison and tried to live honestly when I was again accepted among the members of society. The Brothers of St. Francis, Capuchins from Marche, welcomed me with angelic charity into their monastery as a brother, not as a servant. I've been living with their community for 24 years, and now I am serenely waiting to witness the vision of God, to hug my loved ones again, and to be next to my Guardian Angel and her dear mother, Assunta.

"I hope this letter that I wrote can teach others the happy lesson of avoiding evil and of always following the right path, like little children. I feel that religion with its precepts is not something we can live without, but rather it is the real comfort, the real strength in life and the only safe way in every circumstance, even the most painful ones of life."

Signature, Alessandro Serenelli

I think Maria's feast day is an important one for young girls. Here is a saint who thought her purity was important enough to die for, and yet how many women just throw theirs away on less than worthwhile suitors? Something to think about.

I think Alessandro's story is an important one for young men and illustrates the old Catholic adage of avoiding the near occasion of sin. Alessandro certainly couldn't go down to the drug store and buy Playboy or watch internet porn, and yet what he was able to find was enough to pollute his mind and darken his heart. He is the perfect example of why young men need to guard their eyes and their ears, to protect their hearts and minds.

  Fifty-Seven Saints (First Communion) has a very good rendering of St. Maria Goretti's story. It is interesting enough to hold the attentions of my teenagers and yet simple enough to hold a child's interest. St. Maria Goretti. She's buried below this effigy. Maria is one of the incorruptibles.  Her body is encased in wax. One last thought on this feast day that remembers chastity and purity - the very last page of the book I am currently reading:   
"Just imagine how much easier it would be to raise pure teens if every parent read this book, In fact parents need this message as much as teens do!" My family has certainly had its share of struggles in this area and yet I am finding a lot of common sense, strength and encouragement in this book. I recommend it. 

Friday, July 03, 2015

7-quick takes

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I can't talk about the SCOTUS ruling right now.  I've been to confession, I'm in a good place, I am letting it go for now  - at least through the weekend. If' you'd like to see my personal stack of controversial stuff, please like my blog's Facebook page!  If I discuss it at all over the holiday, it will be there.

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1.  I have been getting both of my daughters ready for their brother's wedding. It's so different preparing my teenage son and 10-year-old daughter compared to my 16-year-old daughter!.

  • My son went for a tux fitting, cut his hair- and he's ready.
  • My 10-year-old daughter picked out a jr. bridesmaid dress, had it fitted, and she's good to go. 
  • My 16-year-old daughter had to have a new bra and special undergarments, and silver shoes - we're over the $300 mark in clothing and accessories!  And it's not even her fault really but the dress they picked out is one shoulder, so that called for a special bra. It was tight through the hips so that called for a cling-free undergarment, and the bride insisted on silver shoes. Shoes for a very wide size 9, particularly in silver, are not easy or inexpensive. But she should finally be good to go - except for the 8 a.m. hair appointment she has to go to next Saturday - ugh. 

2.  I hope the bride doesn't want me to wear an up-do!  I don't have the face for it, or the jaw line.  I need to wear it down.

About 20 years ago or so I was in a wedding where the bride insisted I get my hair done, and I remember coming home and brushing out - it didn't look the same as the salon hair- but it was more me!   That's kind of what I'm going for as the mother-of the groom.

3.  The baby has something called erythema multiforme.  It looks awful but surprisingly doesn't bother her at all. It's another autoimmune response which makes me wonder if auto-immunity is more widespread in my family than I ever suspected. I must ask around about this at the next family reunion!

4.  My future daughter-in-law calls me Mrs. LaVictoire. I tease her and say that's what I'm going to start calling her.  I did tell her she could call me mom, but she feels uncomfortable with that. So I've been playing with variations. My nieces and nephews call me Aunt Ellie.  I was thinking the baby should call me Grandma Ellie to differentiate me from her other grandma.  So should I be Mother Ellie?  Ellie Mom?  to my daughter-in-law?

5.  They want my 19-month-old granddaughter to carry one of these at the upcoming wedding:

See the tutorial for that here. Since little Miss C. is only 19 months old, there's a good chance she won't do that - unless the sign is connected to a stuffed animal

Which is how a stuffed Holstein will make it's way into my firstborn's wedding!

6.   Rosie ran yesterday morning about 5 miles with the high school team, then three or so miles with her own team last night, and then five miles again this morning with the homeschool team.  In between times she rides bike with her friends and hangs around-

Oh to be 10 with endless energy!
She didn't feel like racing the train though.

7.   Noah was on his way to hang out with the seminarians in our diocese when he realized he only knew one way to get to the restaurant - and it involved the express way.  So very cautiously but very bravely, he got on the express way and drove all by himself.

Frankly I think that's the best way for kids to learn to do that - with me NOT in the car!

Since then he has also driven back from piano lessons on the express way - so maybe this is one more adult-type hurdle cleared!

Happy Fourth of July!

St. Thomas the Apostle

My second son Samuel, was given the second name of Thomas after his Uncle Tom. And we have celebrated The Feast of St. Thomas ever since.

The Risen Lord appears to St Thomas & the apostles

Photo by Father Lawrence OP on Flickr

Our favorite and easiest way to celebrate has been to make St. Thomas Day Cookies, or cupcakes or cake - whatever.  The point is that the item has to have five red marks on it - one for every wound of Christ that St. Thomas touched.  Readers might remember the bowl I decorated for Pentecost.  I thought it might be fun to pull that out for every apostle's feast day and fill it with something!  I guess today I can fill it with the cookies!!

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My pastor,  Father V., had a unique view on the St. Thomas story, focusing on the OTHER apostles - his friends! Father pointed out the loyalty and love of the apostles in putting up with Thomas, the doubter! And how all of us need to keep the doubters, the disbelievers, and the the luke warm, in our prayers and offer them help as much as we can, every day. It was really a nice little homily!

Thomas, the Twin - Pope Benedict XVI: "The Apostle Thomas' case is important to us for at least three reasons: first, because it comforts us in our insecurity; second, because it shows us that every doubt can lead to an outcome brighter than any uncertainty; and, lastly, because the words that Jesus addressed to him remind us of the true meaning of mature faith and encourage us to persevere, despite the difficulty, along our journey of adhesion to him.
A final point concerning Thomas is preserved for us in the Fourth Gospel, which presents him as a witness of the Risen One in the subsequent event of the miraculous catch in the Sea of Tiberias (cf. Jn 21:2ff.).
On that occasion, Thomas is even mentioned immediately after Simon Peter: an evident sign of the considerable importance that he enjoyed in the context of the early Christian communities.
Indeed, the Acts and the Gospel of Thomas, both apocryphal works but in any case important for the study of Christian origins, were written in his name.
Lastly, let us remember that an ancient tradition claims that Thomas first evangelized Syria and Persia (mentioned by Origen, according to Eusebius of Caesarea, Ecclesiastical History 3, 1) and then went on to Western India (cf. Acts of Thomas 1-2 and 17ff.), from where Christianity also reached Southern India.
Let us end our reflection in this mission"

From New Advent:
 Little is recorded of St. Thomas the Apostle, nevertheless thanks to the fourth Gospel his personality is clearer to us than that of some others of the Twelve. His name occurs in all the lists of the Synoptists (Matthew 10:3Mark 3:18Luke 6, cf. Acts 1:13), but in St. John he plays a distinctive part. First, when Jesus announced His intention of returning to Judea to visit Lazarus, "Thomas" who is called Didymus [the twin], said to his fellow disciples: "Let us also go, that we may die with him" (John 11:16). Again it was St. Thomas who during the discourse before the Last Supper raised an objection: "Thomas saith to him: Lord, we know not whither thou goest; and how can we know the way?" (John 14:5). But more especially St. Thomas is remembered for his incredulity when the other Apostles announced Christ's Resurrection to him: "Except I shall see in his hands the print of the nails, and put my finger into the place of the nails, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe" (John 20:25); but eight days later he made his act of faith, drawing down the rebuke of Jesus: "Because thou hast seen me, Thomas, thou hast believed; blessed are they that have not seen, and have believed" (John 20:29).

MDC blogging on St. Thomas 2006

What we learn from St. Thomas via the Curt Jester

St. Thomas feast day MDC 2004

More on St. Thomas from Catholic Culture

St Thomas touches the Risen Lord
Originally uploaded by Lawrence OP

St. Thomas links on Diigo

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Justice Scalia - on Twitter!

Simple Woman

Outside my window...

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This is the best our back yard area has looked in a long time!  Grass, perennials, lights and a TARDIS!

I am thinking...
about what my sister said yesterday.  She is turning 55 and I am 56.  She said, "Aren't you happy that we'll be gone before the real sh#t hits the fan?"

The thing is, I think it might hit the fan before then.

And knowing what my children will have to face - especially the younger three and my granddaughter - I shudder for them.

I am thankful...
for my wonderful husband - who helped me get ready for Izzy's Sweet 16 Party - from helping with the yard work to making corn hole games just before the party started!

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I'm also grateful for all of the friends who showed up to celebrate with Izzy!

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I have...
some wedding programs to show my soon-to-be DIL.  Hopefully we can come up with something quickly for the wedding.

I actually typed my own program all those years ago on an electric typewriter I bought at JC Penney!  Then I had to take it to a printer to have it printed!

In the kitchen...
Taco Tuesday!

I am wearing...
Gray skort and gray and black striped T shirt.

I am reading...

I am going...
  • to walk or work out every day but Thursday with Pfilates.  
  • work two weddings- one this weekend and one next. Then the third week I am the mother-of-the groom!   
From the Learning Rooms...
  We're enjoying a little bit of a break but Noah is still working on: 

One of my favorite things...

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I am hoping to ...
  • Get lots of flute practice done.
  • Organizing my office, classroom, and laundry.  
  • Bracing for the wedding!
  • Planning some high school courses. 
I am looking forward to...

working on our rehab house.

and the wedding.   Actually I have to facilitate another wedding at church this weekend. Once that is over, the very next wedding I attend - I will be the Mother of the Groom!   I cannot wrap my head around that.

BTW, I helped at a delightful wedding a few months ago. It was different in that our organist wasn't there and they had an outside pianist play. She was wonderful (and is giving Noah piano lessons this summer). The bride walked down the aisle to this beautiful and haunting melody, on piano instead of violin. I think I'd like to learn it for flute.

A quote to share...

The Supreme Court of the United States has descended from the disciplined legal reasoning of John Marshall and Joseph Story to the mystical aphorisms of the fortune cookie.   A. Scalia - Supreme Court Justice.

A picture to share...
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Monday, June 29, 2015

My Top 8 Reactions to the Supreme Court Gay-Marriage Ruling.

After Friday's Supreme Court Ruling I got a number of Facebook messages and e-mails asking for my opinion or asking me to explain my opinion.

1. The hashtag #lovewins, was all over social media.  Did that mean that #hatelost?  Of course not.  This wasn't a love vs. hate conflict.   To frame it that way is really the logical fallacy of false dilemma.

I have known many wonderful gay and lesbian people in my life time. All of them have been gifted, talented, funny and really enjoyable folks to be around. I fully believe what the Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches, that these people must be:

 accepted with respectcompassion, and sensitivity.
I believe that we are called to do all of those things for all of God's people, and that one can do that and still oppose so-called same sex marriage. In fact, to really love our fellow human beings, one MUST oppose SSM.

2.  A cooking show a few weeks ago talked about the necessity of letting the different ingredients "marry" in the recipe.  What the chef was trying to say was that the different ingredients were very divergent from one another, yet if they were put together they produced a unique and splendid flavor!  What a great analogy to the marriage of a man and a woman.  You have two individuals with completely dissimilar yet complementary differences (physically, mentally, emotionally), and when they come into a marriage they have the ability to produce unique individuals from their union!

Marriage - of people, foods, or materials literally means the joining or fusion of two different things!  But it is the differences that make the joined union so strong.  In marriage the woman and the man bring these very important characteristics together and they complete one another in a way that two "sames" just can't because they are similar.

3.  Saying that it doesn't matter if there are two mommies or two daddies negates the importance of motherhood and fatherhood.  Children  benefit greatly from the femininity of their mothers and from the masculinity of their fathers. Children with a mother and a father do better. 

Dr. Michelle Cretella, president of the College of Pediatrics said:
[T]his is a tragic day for America’s children. The SCOTUS has just undermined the single greatest pro-child institution in the history of mankind: the natural family. Just as it did in the joint Roe v Wade and Doe v Bolton decisions, the SCOTUS has elevated and enshrined the wants of adults over the needs of children.

4.  Justice Kennedy's conscience was tweaking him a bit while he was deciding how to vote.

“I don’t even know how to count the decimals when we talk about millennia,” he said. “This definition has been with us for millennia. And it’s very difficult for the court to say, ‘Oh, well, we know better.’ ” He added that “the social science on this” — the value and perils of same-sex marriage — is “too new.”
Unfortunately, he let other voices drown out his conscience. Marriage of a man and woman raising children is the basic unit of civilization.  And we've just messed with that.

Oh... and it hasn't been going that great for Scandinavia which legalized SSM quite a while ago.  

Way to go Anthony.  Behold your legacy.
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5.  Legal does not mean Moral.  The court has gotten it wrong before many times.  The two outstanding debacles that come to mind immediately are the Dred Scott Decision, and of course Roe vs. Wade. 

Oh, and just for fun, how about these? 

6.  One friend asked me if everyone should have the right to pursue happiness in their own way.  In my opinion - no.  Not if pursuing happiness causes others to lose life or liberty. So far we have seen small businesses and others lose their Life (as in livelihoods) because they did not believe in SSM. Now small business owners are likely to lose the liberty either literally ( jail time) or financially (legal costs) if they determine in  good conscience that they cannot participate in SSM weddings, ceremonies, etc.

But beyond that, children are best served in a family with a mother and a father  - that is the best way for children to be happy.

7. We are called to love our fellow man.  But sometimes love means saying some hard things.  SSM will not bring individuals into closer union with God. It is not loving to pretend that it's okay to partake in them and to live that lifestyle any more than it's okay to tell a woman that it is good for her to get an abortion. Wrong is wrong.  It is not loving to paint it any other way.

From the Catechism of the Catholic Church:
2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,141 tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered."142 They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.
2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.

8. And lastly, but my favorite, the a-religious who want to wave the bible in the air, but haven't necessarily read the contents. So, here are a  few surprises contained therein.

 Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh."

‘Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one’?" Matthew 19:4

No one who abides in him keeps on sinning; no one who keeps on sinning has either seen him or known him. Little children, let no one deceive you. Whoever practices righteousness is righteous, as he is righteous. Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil, for the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the works of the devil. No one born of God makes a practice of sinning, for God's seed abides in him, and he cannot keep on sinning because he has been born of God.  John 3: 6-9

"Many will say to Me on that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?'  And then I will declare to them, 'And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you: away from me you evildoers."  Matthew 7:22

And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting. Rom. 1:24-28

For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. 2 Timothy 4:3

Friday, June 26, 2015

7-Quick takes - a tough week to be a conservative Catholic

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1. As weeks go, this was a tough one!  It started a week ago Thursday with the release of the Pope's Encyclical, Laudato Si. I guess I should start out by saying that I loved most of it. In fact, I appreciate that the Holy Father took so much time to write such an all encompassing piece! I also appreciate the fact that the Pope is plain spoken. This Encyclical is easy to read and comprehend. .

To understand where he is coming from, one only has to read this:
 I do not want to write this Encyclical without turning to that attractive and compelling figure, whose name I took as my guide and inspiration when I was elected Bishop of Rome. I believe that Saint Francis is the example par excellence of care for the vulnerable and of an integral ecology lived out joyfully and authentically. He is the patron saint of all who study and work in the area of ecology, and he is also much loved by non-Christians. He was particularly concerned for God’s creation and for the poor and outcast. He loved, and was deeply loved for his joy, his generous self-giving, his openheartedness. He was a mystic and a pilgrim who lived in simplicity and in wonderful harmony with God, with others, with nature and with himself. He shows us just how inseparable the bond is between concern for nature, justice for the poor, commitment to society, and interior peace.
I mentioned paragraph 47 in an earlier post.
Real relationships with others, with all the challenges they entail, now tend to be replaced by a type of internet communication which enables us to choose or eliminate relationships at whim, thus giving rise to a new type of contrived emotion which has more to do with devices and displays than with other people and with nature.
and of course I applaud this:

120. Since everything is interrelated, concern for the protection of nature is also incompatible with the justification of abortion. How can we genuinely teach the importance of concern for other vulnerable beings, however troublesome or inconvenient they may be, if we fail to protect a human embryo, even when its presence is uncomfortable and creates difficulties? “If personal and social sensitivity towards the acceptance of the new life is lost, then other forms of acceptance that are valuable for society also wither away”.[97]

2. But then he said stuff like this:

 Although no conclusive proof exists that GM cereals may be harmful to human beings,

I'm here to tell ya, getting rid of GMOs from my diet has gotten rid of my ulcerative colitis, eczema and 40 pounds . There never will be "conclusive proof" if the funding isn't there to conduct it!  But I'll take personal anecdotes any time!

"Climate change" is mentioned 5 times, as if it's already a given that man can modify the climate. It sounds like he is advocating expensive programs to try to "fix" this.

From personal experience I know that trying to "Fix" climate is also harmful to the poor.  In Akron, we have expensive EPA mandates on water.  My last water/trash bill had over $60 worth of charges just for EPA mandates. At least once or twice a month I watch the water department go down the street shutting off water, because people are struggling to keep up with their payments.  So while I understand where Pope Francis is coming from, I think this is a perspective he didn't perhaps take into consideration.

At least nothing in the encyclical leads me to believe that I have to accept man made climate change as a fact!

3. Then today, of course, five members of the Supreme Court decided to change the course of history and make same sex marriage legal in the United States.

Please see Archbishop Chaput's statement. 
Rush Limbaugh
Cardinal Wuerl 
The Daily Signal.
and my own bishop - Bishop Lennon of Cleveland who is SPOT ON!

 Traditional marriage is the cradle of the family, the basic building block of society. As Pope Francis has reminded us, every child has a right to be raised by two parents, a father and a mother. Both parents are important, and they are not interchangeable. The sad reality that so many children are deprived of this right because of the crisis in traditional marriage does not make it any less important. It is deeply disappointing and worrisome that our courts do not understand this.

4.  Sadly, but not surprisingly, many of my Catholic School classmates, from high school and grade school, are applauding the decision. My younger Facebook friends, whose parents spent tons of money sending to Catholic school, are also flying the rainbow flag on their Facebooks today.

5. That said, I have had at least three of my liberal facebook friends who support my write to disagree with the decision. Folks, I can't tell you how rare that is and how much I appreciate it! I've always said that people should be able to disagree and still respect each other.

6.  There was also a decision by the Supremes yesterday on Obamacare.  On that one, Justice Roberts decided to go play with his liberal friends.

Justice Roberts is a huge disappointment. He is to George W., what David Souter was to Bush 41. Ann Coulter called it.  I nominate her for vetting all the next SCOTUS appointments by the next Republican president.

The scary thing about THAT decision is the fact that words no longer have any meaning.  From Judge Scalia:

“Words no longer have meaning if an Exchange that is not established by a State is ‘established by the State,'” he wrote.
“Under all the usual rules of interpretation, in short, the Government should lose this case. But normal rules of interpretation seem always to yield to the overriding principle of the present Court: The Affordable Care Act must be saved.
7.  This last one isn't of such major impact - but it still stunned. me.  After baring my soul on last week about body image. I wrote:

With the wedding a mere month away, I was desperate.  I finally sought and found the old-fashioned torture device I had been avoiding for years – the measuring tape. After finding a web site to describe how to accurately record measurements, I dutifully took mine and then wrote it all down – every agonizing detail of it. With the actual numbers in front of me, I started looking around for something that would fit and feel comfortable for the wedding. I had to face some facts – I am not a size 8. I am no longer an hourglass shape.  This body has had babies, and has lived a life, and even after a 40-pound weight loss, I am an apple and still a plus size – I have to shop accordingly.

To which some guy named Mike, (on  Seriously?) decided to opine.

I hear this excuse sooooo often and every time I find it to be BS. Truth is unless you have a real medical condition the issue is too much food – not enough working out.
Quit enabling and start taking responsibility for your body and your eating habits

To which I replied:
Get back to me Mike after you’ve birthed (3 via C-section) and raised 6 kids on a shoe string and gone through menopause Okay?!

He totally missed the point of the entire piece. What. A. Jerk.

Peace! Be Still!
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