Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

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My homeschool support group had a meeting last night. The turn out was a little disappointing - only about 10% of the membership turned out. Yet, it was a great meeting. I think with a smaller group, people had time to share their thoughts and feelings, their joys and concerns. I think we actually got to know each other a little bit better. This meeting will be one of the most memorable in my mind. 

I should also mention that our group has been meeting every week for hikes and a picnic, so maybe they don't feel the need for an evening meeting too. I think we still have to figure out the best way to get meet the needs of a majority of our members. 

2.  In response to my article on Restoring the Order of Confirmation this week, a nice lady wrote to tell me that her family has developed some very nice traditions with confirming older teens. She would hate to see those opportunities disappear if the age of confirmation is lowered. 

I get that. We have some nice traditions around confirming teens too. When our children have chosen sponsors outside of the family, we have taken those folks out to dinner or had them over for a meal before or immediately after the ceremony. Those are nice memories. 

But I don't think we should lose sight of the possibility that waiting to confirm may be doing more harm than good. If the age changes, new traditions, and celebrations will start. There is always a way to celebrate our sacramental church!

3.  Speaking of confirmation busy work - I had to track down Rosie's baptismal certificate. She was baptized at St. Luke's in Flint, MI. That church, along with many others in Flint, is now closed. I called the number for St. Luke's and the community center there told me to call St. John Vianney. I called St. John Vianney and they told me to call St.Luke's.

It suddenly dawned on me that this was going to be a problem. I called St. Luke's and asked to talk to someone in charge. A very nice nun called me back and told me that a monsignor had come and taken boxes of records away. He probably had the certificate, but she didn't know where he was. 

The only thing I could think to do then was to call the Diocese of Lansing. I got in touch with a very nice clerk in the records office. He only works one day a week so I was lucky to get him. He looked all over the place and could not find her certificate. I was starting to panic. 

A couple of days later though, it came in the mail. I guess the clerk caught up with the monsignor and got the information. I'm going to keep this in a safe place!

4.  Rosie is running her last cross country race with her CYO friends and coaches this weekend. All week I have been mourning to myself,

"This is our last Monday night practice."
"This is our last practice at the park."
"This is our last time racing home from art class to get to running practice." 

It's been exhausting.
For Rosie, it has been 6 years, but for me, it has been 14 years! That's a big chunk out of my life.

Mr. Pete is taking Rosie to run this weekend. I can't go because my grand niece is being baptized and I need to be there for that. I'm also teaching Mr. Pete's 6th grade PSR class so that he doesn't have to find a sub. 

I have mixed feelings about missing her last race. I hope she can set a season record. I hope she runs her best and doesn't get discouraged. I hope she is competitive and enjoys herself. I'm looking forward to the offseason. 

Heideman 2018 Rosie

5.  Izzy has been offered a great opportunity, Sam is ready to launch his restaurant, and Noah aced his midterms! Life for my older kids good right now.  

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