Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

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I felt as if I were living in some kind of weird sitcom yesterday. I was at the kitchen table peeling onions and carrots, helping my 13-year-old on her essay on the evolution of Bilbo Baggins, and helping my 5-year-old make paper angels for the Feast of the Guardian Angels coming up. 

My laptop was in front of me so that I could watch the proceedings streamed on Youtube. I was particularly interested in the testimonies of Dr. Ford and Judge Kavanaugh. From time to time I had to get up to do something else like finish fixing dinner, read a story to Miss C, or go to the bathroom. When it was time to go to cross country practice I put my headphones on and listened to parts of it on my phone. Rosie ran, Miss C. played with a balloon, and I listened. 

It was a weird day. 

I heard so many people on the radio warn against letting children listen to that hearing but honestly, for kids this was a snooze fest. Once you got past Dr. Ford talking about the actual accusation, the rest was just a lot of grandstanding from the Democratic Senators and tedious questioning by the prosecutor. 

I have read several accounts on blogs, Facebook and Twitter from sexual assault survivors. Their creed seems to be that they believe Dr. Ford because they too were once assaulted. This makes absolutely no sense to me. I think a shared trauma can make you empathetic and sympathetic to another woman's story. But if you have brothers or sons how can you not want to weigh the evidence first? Even sites very friendly to sexual assault victims say the rate of false or mistaken allegations ranges from 2 to 10%. I think the mantra shouldn't be, "Believe Women" simply because they are women, but instead, "Listen to Women" and then make your judgments accordingly. 

Doesn't "Believe Women" just for being women kind of take away from the gender equality movement?

I did listen to Dr. Ford yesterday and I do think something happened to her. But I do not believe her memories or accusations ring 100% true. When she was caught in the "fear of flying" lie that erased a lot of her credibility. I think she is being used as a pawn and I think she is allowing that to happen for political purposes. 

3.  Younger readers might not remember Susan Smith.  But when I watched Dr. Ford's testimony she reminded me of that. Lots of emotions, no tears. Nuff said.

Heroes emerged. 
Lindsay Graham - whoa!
I think Chuck Grassley had some good moments as well. 

At times it seemed as if the only person defending Judge Kavanaugh, was Judge Kavanaugh. He was powerful and defiant. And believable. If he's lying, he must be one of the nations most gifted actors because I found his testimony moving and compelling. 

Elizabeth Foss had two wonderful tweets yesterday. As a mom with four sons, one of whom went from discerning priesthood to a life in public service, this hit home.

And since Rosie and I are spending a lot of time in the Hobbit this semester: