Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

Easter Monday - Divine Mercy Day 5 - separated souls

Jesus asked that the Feast of the Divine Mercy be preceded by a Novena to the Divine Mercy which would begin on Good Friday. He gave St. Faustina an intention to pray for on each day of the Novena. 

In her diary, St. Faustina wrote that Jesus told her:

"On each day of the novena you will bring to My heart a different group of souls and you will immerse them in this ocean of My mercy ... On each day you will beg My Father, on the strength of My passion, for the graces for these souls."

My grandparents got married on Easter Sunday in 1927. They were married in my grandmother's living room because my grandfather was not Catholic, and so they could not be married in the Catholic church. Grandma stayed away from the Catholic church for over 20 years, but eventually she felt called back. When she returned,  she brought my grandfather and their two children with her. Because she returned to the church, my sister and I were raised Catholic.
The wedding of Calvin and Helen

Mr. Pete and I spent our brief time away from the church and then came back with renewed love for our Catholic faith. Our adult children have spent some time wandering in the desert as well. There are a lot of hurt souls who have separated themselves from the church for many reasons. I pray they can find their way back and experience the love and enthusiasm we found on our return across the Tiber.

Fifth Day
"Today bring to Me the Souls of those who have separated themselves from My Church*,

and immerse them in the ocean of My mercy. During My bitter Passion they tore at My Body and Heart, that is, My Church. As they return to unity with the Church My wounds heal and in this way they alleviate My Passion."

Most Merciful Jesus, Goodness Itself, You do not refuse light to those who seek it of You. Receive into the abode of Your Most Compassionate Heart the souls of those who have separated themselves from Your Church. Draw them by Your light into the unity of the Church, and do not let them escape from the abode of Your Most Compassionate Heart; but bring it about that they, too, come to glorify the generosity of Your mercy.

Eternal Father, turn Your merciful gaze upon the souls of those who have separated themselves from Your Son's Church, who have squandered Your blessings and misused Your graces by obstinately persisting in their errors. Do not look upon their errors, but upon the love of Your own Son and upon His bitter Passion, which He underwent for their sake, since they, too, are enclosed in His Most Compassionate Heart. Bring it about that they also may glorify Your great mercy for endless ages. Amen.


Kintarojo via Flickr  licensed cc

For help with children returning to the faith see Brandon Vogt's web site.

See also my article on Catholicmom.com about the Separated Souls.
An Excerpt:

This one is deeply personal for me. I grew up in a household full of converts to Catholicism, so of course, that meant I had a lot of relatives who were not Catholic. Most of those didn’t understand the Catholic Church either. I heard stories of different family members trying to dissuade my grandparents from joining the Catholic Church. They expressed their concerns out of love for God and the truth as they understood it. My grandparents went through with their conversion, but I think they also appreciated the pain some felt at the new separation.

These were beloved aunts and uncles who could be counted on for support and assistance in times of trouble. They were the very definition of “family.” They gathered together for celebrations, they could sing all the great old hymns loudly in perfect four-part harmony, and they were all prayerful people who knew and loved our Lord.
They just weren’t Catholic. They taught us Bible stories, reminded us to say grace before meals, looked after the young children and honored our elderly. They just weren’t Catholic. And when I was learning the Corporal Works of Mercy, it occurred to me that I had already seen them in action, because my extended family did all of those things. They just weren’t Catholic.

We would gather for longer times together  – family reunions, weddings, and funerals, spending time together laughing, crying, praying and playing and it would be wonderful. But on Sundays, we would go to the Catholic church and they would go to their church and that brief time of disunity and separation would just feel wrong and disjointed and it still does. All these decades later when most of the aunts and uncles are gone but my cousins and I remain separated in our faith.