Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

7-Quick Takes

1.  My granddaughter finally decided to poop in the potty. She's been going to the potty for quite a while now but for a #2 she has demanded to use a pull-up.  A week or so ago she got up from her nap and came into my office where I was working and told me that she was pooping. When I said, "Quick!  Let's go sit on the potty!"  she started to cry and said nope! she wanted to stay right where she was - standing in my office, pooping in her pull up. After about a minute she even wanted to hold my hand. Sigh...

But she finally made up her mind that she could do this and she did  - at home, and apparently on her own terms.

I'm thrilled for her!  Happy for my son who can probably cross diapers and pull ups off of his weekly shopping list.

But the grandma/ mother's heart realizes that this is another one out of diapers, and there's a bit of sadness with that too.  You wouldn't think someone who has changed a gazillion poopy diapers over her lifetime would get nostalgic about it but I can't help it.

2.  So at the beginning of Lent, I was pretty much ready to move to a house in the country without Internet or a smart phone and no forwarding address.  Aside from the fact that Mr. Pete and my remaining kids would be a little annoyed about that, it seemed tempting.

Instead, it was more practical to limit and screen my Facebook feed. I had pretty much had it with my millennial friends on Facebook. I'm about to make a broad generalization but I was just done being shocked and hurt by

  • ultra liberal thoughts and ideas being passed off as the gold standard in morals and intelligence.
  • Self-righteousness or worse -
  • Condescension.

from people that I can remember as babies and toddlers not that long ago!

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3. And then, as often happens when I feel that way- something happened that gave me hope. First, my sweet daughter-in-law messaged me and asked for some ideas about Lent for her little home with my son, and then a goddaughter asked me for some pregnancy advice with her first baby. I just can't put into words how much it meant to me to have these young ladies seek me out for my opinions on these things - things that are important to me and that I want to be able to hand on, and that they were open and happy to hear what I had to say.


4.  I have been teaching Logic to my high school co-op class this semester. Basically, we have been learning about well-groundedness and logical fallacies.  But I also wanted them to get a glimpse of what formal logic looked like. So on Wednesday, Noah came in and taught my class.

He talked about all of the different ways to form an argument, and the different symbols they use in logic and did a lot of truth tables. I think he gave the kids a very good introductory idea about what formal logic entails.


5.  Our logic text book talked about propaganda and logical fallacies in advertising and in the law - which gave me the great idea of pointing out the logical fallacies in the OJ Simpson case!  I think it will be a fun class but I have to get some time this weekend to pull it all together. I have spent time reading Mark Fuhrman's book and watching the trial on the internet. The fact that an obviously guilty man walked away from a murder charge should make the case interesting for my logic students.

6.  A few years ago I found a beautiful red ball gown at a yard sale. The lady selling it had worn it to George W. Bush's first inauguration.  We were saving it for senior year.  This week I found out that the dance is going to be a black and white ball.

inauguration dress

They still might let her wear it. There might be an exception for seniors (but I don't know that Izzy wants to be the only one not wearing a black or white dress). There was also talk about there being black and white with a splash of red - she would definitely be a splash of red!  We're going to have to talk about it.

7.  The music of Lent and the Easter Season is upon us. Mr. Pete and I looked at the calendar and there seemed like no time to celebrate his upcoming birthday! Noah's birthday is coming up too and we usually celebrate them together. I wanted to do it this weekend, but Mr. Pete insisted that was too far away from the actual birthday date. So instead we will do it next week, after one of our concerts!

Which incidentally, I have to do a lot of practicing for.  I also have to finish learning my part for the Last 7 Words of Christ, but the most challenging thing of that is knowing when exactly to come in!! Counting is key!

Told Noah I didn't have didn't pictures of myself, so he took like 100 with my phone during the concert yesterday!