Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

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1. We got more information about my sister-in-law's passing this week. It appears that as she got weaker, she started refusing more and more medical intervention including just basic oxygen support. Eventually her oxygen saturation fell and her heart just stopped.

This reminded me of my mother's death from cancer.  As Mom got sicker and sicker she basically quit fighting too, despite my best efforts to encourage her to eat and to get out of bed and move.

I understands that there are certain situations you simply can't understands until you in them, so I wonder if the dying somehow innately know when they have crossed the line between living and dying, and if so, is just being quiet and peaceful, learning to accept and prepare for the inevitable the best thing to do? And if it is, do we do a disservice to the dead when we keep encouraging them to try to get better?

When mom was dying, an elderly lady came into her room and told her to go into the light and meet Jesus.  After she left, I whispered to my mom, "Stay away from the light!! I'm not ready to lose you yet!"  That was when I still had a little hope. And now I wonder if that was the wrong thing to do. Maybe the best thing to do for the dying is to just be there with them, and let them die.

2. My sister-in-law is going to be cremated,and buried with her parents this spring.  I mentioned to Mr. Pete that a blogger friend that died a few years ago, was buried with her parents, and her name engraved on their stone.  Mr. Pete and his siblings liked the idea and I think that is what might happen for my sister-in-law - either that or a separate marker somewhere on the grave site.

3.  I am filling out my first FAFSA form and I gotta say, it's a little intrusive!  Saw this on Twitter and it cracked me up!

4.  Noah has three scholarship applications that he needs to work on.  If he gets the aid I think he will, plus these scholarships, I think he'll be doing well financially.  He just needs to keep his grades up, but if he works as hard next year as he is this year, I think he'll be fine.  He's very self motivated.

5.  Our newest Neflix treat this week- Making of a Murderer.  If you like crime shows and documentaries, this one is very compelling.

6. I've blogged before the importance of having pictures of yourself.  That has become even more evident to me as I have scoured my photos to find one of Irene! Irene didn't hide from being photographed, but she didn't pose for single pictures either.  Note to self - at the family reunions, don't just take pictures of the kids, make sure to get some of the adults as well!
SCwedding1006 Irene and Jim (1)
This was a nice one I blew up from a group photo taken at Calvin's wedding.

7.   I also found this one of me and Mr. Pete from the wedding and I really love it.  I like that my smile isn't forced but I also like the way Mr. Pete is holding me.  It just feels like "us."
SCwedding0936 me and pete


  1. I always think about being in pictures when Facebook or Instagram wants to summarize my year. There's a picture of that random seed-free lemon, every week of mirror selfies from What I Wore Sunday, and a lot of stamps because I like stamps. Not exactly representative of my actual life!

    1. Well at least you're making an effort Lindsay and that's a good start!

  2. You might find some comfort on the book, On Death and Dying by Kubler-Ross. Although Kubler Ross went a bit too far later in life, I found this book made a profound impact on my life and work with the elderly.
    Lovely pictures! Keep it going!

    1. Yes, I read her years ago, but could probably use a review. I think her stages are spot on! I think I'm still in the denial stage as far as losing Irene goes.


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