Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

12 years of blogging - and 5 things I've learned!

Yesterday was my 12 year blogiversary! 12 years of blogging - something that started on a whim, as a way to have a little control of my thoughts and a place to put them. As I look back, here are five things I think I've learned from blogging.

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Me and Mr. Pete in 2005

1. I hope I've become a better writer. It was one thing to be a participant in an online forum. I enjoyed arguing and debating with others who also enjoyed doing that as well. But with blogging I had to come up with my own topics and have fuller, more thought out posts. That was hard for me at first, but once I get started now, the words seem to come much easier.

2. Photography is also important. When I first started blogging I didn't even own a decent camera. When I finally got a digital camera I had to learn how to use it and then how to make my shots look the way I wanted them to. Over the years I think I've mastered that, although I could stand to get some better lenses and experiment with those, especially for sports shots.

3. Writing about little kids is a lot easier than writing about older and adult children! I have a lot to say about my older children, but they have a right to their own privacy and to tell their own stories. When I do write about them, it has to be about my perspective as their mother and to keep that focus - not always easy to do.

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4. My interests in my Catholic faith have changed over time. I still defend the Catholic faith, but I am more called now to the mystical and prayerful part of the faith.

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Father Lawrence Lew, OP via Flickr licensed cc.

5. I used to think the personality types were kind of an interesting idea, but when I look over conflicts over the years, every one of them involved a depressive personality type. I find that fascinating, although I can't explain it. Also, each of those types has sought to engage me - another fact that I can't explain.


  1. I'm right there with you on writing about older kids and about coming up with your own topics. I've seen a few bloggers over the years who managed to create and maintain a community of readers who not only comment on posts but interact with each other's comments, but they have been few and far between.

  2. I have a blog I'm launching on January 1. Thank you so much for sharing what you have learned, I hope I can learn a lot also!

  3. You're welcome Lexie - good luck!

  4. Hi Ruth, It seems to me that right now, younger women in general seem to get the comments and the community - maybe it's an "in the trenches" in-this-together thing that keeps their comment boxes full. I don't know. I don't blog for comments and I know I get a lot of long views - just nothing that inspires a lot of discussion I guess.


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