Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

Looking back - Encouraging a homeschooled son on his career path

Friday we got to see Calvin become a member or the City of Cleveland's EMS corps. This is a job that he has dreamed about since his jr. year in high school, and he was successfully able to stick to it and accomplish his goal.

There are a couple of things that I think we did along the way to encourage him along this path, but overall I really think that it was 100% up to Calvin, whether or not he was going to be successful in this. We provided, support, encouragement (along with prayers and worry ) and the educational foundation, but he had to apply all of that and put in the effort.  Here are some things that I think helped.

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1.  Math and science.  We used Saxon math in elementary school and a variety of science resources.  I always felt that I had missed out on good math instruction when I was in school so it was important to me that my children had a good program and that they felt grounded in math.  I think we accomplished that for Calvin.

2.  Tackling his reading difficulties and exposing him to good writing.  I wrote about our reading difficulties here.  But while Calvin was unable to read for himself, he was exposed to a lot of good literature via books on tape.  Although we never tackled writing the way I really wanted to because of the reading issue, exposure to good books helped him to know what good writing should be like and that was helpful.

3.  Sports.  Calvin swam competitively and was also played soccer. The soccer team he was on for many years went from last place for a few years to eventually winning the championship.  I think that gave Calvin a sense of the big picture and the importance of sticking with something.  Even swimming competitively for years helped him learn to set and meet goals.

4.  Working as a soccer ref and pool life guard while in high school.  Both of those experiences helped Calvin to be in the position of authority and to understand more about working with the public, especially during stressful times, a skill that comes in handy during a medical emergency.

5.  Recognizing that not all paths lead to college.  Calvin never wanted to go to college and knew that he didn't want a job with a lot of routine.  Being a Paramedic seemed a perfect fit.  He was able to get his certifications via a hospital program and since he is working now for a big city with many calls per shift, he certainly won't get bored with routine!

I'll admit that at first this was a difficult dream for ME to let go of - my generation was raised to believe that the only path to success was via college, and homeschool success seems to be measured by whether or not the student gets into college! But I think since my family has always tried to live on less and avoid or get out of debt, looking at the pros and cons of college costs made us more open to looking at other alternatives. 

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  1. Thank you for sharing this! I have one child beginning high school this year and another starting next year. High school has worried me because I want to make sure they are equipped to do what God leads them to do after school. I love seeing success stories from other homeschool graduates. It helps me relax a little more. :-)

  2. Congrats to Calvin and to his teacher!


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