Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

The Bishop taketh away- and then giveth back - one confused Catholic's opinion

Mr. Pete grew up in a very active parish in the Diocese of Lansing, St. Agnes in Flint, MI. This is where he was baptized and confirmed and where several of his siblings were married.  He went to the elementary school there too.  In the bustling Vehicle City of the 1960s and 70s, St. Agnes was a neighborhood hub and  family life as well as much of the Catholic social life in the area was focused there.

But even as Mr. Pete and I were entering our high school years, the scene was changing.  Auto jobs were leaving Flint, urban renewal was sweeping the city and  and parishioners were leaving.  Within  a few decades St. Agnes was a shadow of its former self and despite some steadfast parishioners driving in from the suburbs every week to attend mass, the parish was closed in 2005 and exists no more. 

A similar sort of thing happened to St. Mary's in Akron. Urban renewal and population shifts cost St. Mary's its high school - which merged with another high school in 1973.  It's elementary school remains but serves students from 30 different zip codes and mostly non Catholic. Yet a devoted number of parishioners were willing to drive in to the city from the suburbs every Sunday to go to mass at St. Mary's.  So with declining memberships and parishioners who didn't even live in the parish boundaries, Bishop Lennon did the same thing his colleague in Michigan did - he closed it down.

As painful as that was for people, it seemed to make sense.  St. Mary's was combined with another struggling downtown parish - St. Bernard's, and the hard work of combining the two groups into a new entity began.

It affected my parish too as St. Mary's had a big Tridentine mass following.  That mass was allowed to continue at. St. Sebastian provided the worshipers became part of the parish and took part in parish life. There have been some growing pains in that regard too, but as time has gone on, people have settled in, relationships have been made, and the trauma of the closing had started to heal...

until the Vatican overturned the Bishop's decision to close St. Mary's and other parishes in the diocese. I blogged about that last month.  I opined:
It might be that the bishop will make an appeal of his own to Rome, or he could just reopen everything, or (and probably more likely in my opinion) he'll just say there aren't the resources to do so - which is why they were closed in the first place.
Which just goes to show what I know!   It turns out Bishop Lennon has just decided to let the parishes re-open!

I think it's brilliant!

  • It makes the people happy and lets them have their say about their beloved churches.
  • It keeps everyone out of the long limbo of an appeal and keeps folks from harboring unkind thoughts about the bishop and the diocese.
  • It also puts the onus and responsibility on the parishioners to keep their churches up and going. 
  • And if it doesn't work out, the Bishop can certainly say, "told ya so!"  
It's a total win for the Bishop and I think he was very wise.

On the other hand, I hope the people of St. Mary's will use sound judgement and wisdom before they  decide when and if they really want to re-open.  A lot of time and energy has gone into the mergers with the other parishes and many new friendships have been formed and memories have been made.  I hope they take that into account before just rushing ahead. If not, this might end up being a case of, "be careful what you pray for - because you might just get it!" 

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  1. As a former St Mary's parishioner, and former STVM high schooler, we'll see what happens in the future months following this announcement. I'm not sure how much has been "gutted" from St Mary's, how much work will need to be done now that it's been left standing alone for 2 years...but I'll go wherever the Latin Mass crowd is going. Now that I've had the fortunate circumstance to attend Latin Mass, I'll never go back to the former rite if at all possible. There's so many details left out of this post, I'm not going to go into them here. I haven't "belonged" to a community since my high school years. There's no room for outreach to a single lay woman with no family ties in any Catholic community I've belonged to since high school. No worries. God has a plan for me. Looking forward to see what unfolds in the months upcoming. Thanks for the news, Elena!

  2. I think it's probably difficult for a single lay woman to feel connected to a parish - but not impossible. My sister would be an example of that as I shared with you on facebook. We also buried a beloved member of our Praise and Worship Ensemble last year who had been a member for 30+ years and was an important part of our group. But once a single woman finds her niche in the community, it might be easier to fully give herself to it without the demands of husband and family pulling in another direction!

    I was probably around four or five when my parish switched over to the Novus Ordo mass. I have a warm memory of sitting on my grandmother's lap snuggling with her while she said her rosary during the Latin mass.

    I think it is important to remember that the Eucharist is the center of the mass. We should never let the rite take our focus away from what is truly important.


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