Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

A confirmation letter to my son Noah

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Dear Noah,

 In a few weeks you will be confirmed as a full member of the Catholic Church. Congratulations! I know that you have really worked hard to understand and learn as much about your Catholic faith as you could before receiving this sacrament. On your retreat there are a few things your Dad and I would like you to remember -

 You were our fourth son in a row but you have always been a unique little boy. I love your bright blue eyes, all of those freckles and dimples.  I guess God really wanted you to tap into your Celtic Heritage!

  I love how you are always ready with a quick smile for everyone.
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I loved how even when you were a baby you would cry when a baby on t.v. was crying, or if a kid outside was crying or basically when you saw anyone crying - you didn't even have to know why  - you just did.  That's great empathy and you still have that today.  Don't lose that.  It's a great gift to be able to   relate to people even when they are at their lowest.

15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.Romans 12:15

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I loved how you were the baby/kid that always wanted to snuggle.  I never had to chase you down for a hug!  Thank you for that.

You were also an Irish twin with your sister Izzy.
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Not an easy spot to be in I would imagine; nonetheless,  you were always best friends with your sister and I always felt that she could count on you for companionship, love, support and protection -

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and you were always good natured about it - even if you guys did carry on like siblings sometimes.

It's been a joy to watch you grow up.

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I love how you are willing to try new things and I admire your determination  -

Noah Crossing the finish line

and joy!

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in everything you do!!

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Thank you for working so hard in your studies.  Keep at it Noah.  Never lose your love of learning.  Embrace the riches of your Catholic faith - with a 2000+ year history, there is always more to learn.

Maybe this year we should even start reading some of the works of this guy!?

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I am happy that you are open to discerning a vocation in the priesthood and your Dad and I will do everything that we can to help with your studies.

Dare to dream!


but you know what Noah?  Whatever you decide to do with your life, do it with the gifts God has given you and follow His call - you'll be alright.

 Take delight in the LORD, 
   and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Psalm 37:4

Love, Mom and Dad


  1. What a wonderful letter. Noah is blessed to have you for his parents.


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