This comment in my comment box spurred my interest:
"Surely if Jesus -- who has perfect knowledge -- reprimanded Martha, but not Mary, then I need to learn something from that, and not assume..."
I'm reminded that the scriptures are full of many layers and levels. Imagine that great scholars have poured over these passages for centuries, and yet they still hold meaning and interest for bible students. Many times there are different angles to the same story.
The story of the prodigal son comes to mind. I once heard Josh Harris speak and he reminded us that while the prodigal had the money - he was having a good time!! Very true and it's an angle that doesn't get much play in Sunday School.
I also remember the first time I heard Professor Scott Hahn speak of Abraham and his attempt to sacrifice Isaac. This occurred somewhere in Salem, which later became part of JeruSALEM. Indeed God sacrifices his son in a place where Abraham does not need to sacrifice his. The symbolism and meaning in that revelation is rich!
So I took a fresh look at Martha and Mary. I noted, perhaps for the first time, that Martha is the one who invites Jesus in. She welcomes him. She opens her home and her heart to him. Wow... been there. Many times. Part of having a Domestic Church is trying to make sure that Jesus is welcome there as well as in the hearts of each family member. And maybe that's where Martha didn't follow through. Jesus does become a deep part of Mary's heart, and certainly her mind. I'm sure that's what Martha wanted for her sister. But at the same time, maybe she was jealous that she hadn't allowed Jesus into her own heart and mind as she had intended. She let the daily things take her away instead of moving her closer. I've done that too.
The other part that strikes me is the part where she asks the Lord to "make my sister" do something. How many times I have asked God that my will be done instead of His?" Probably too numerous to count. God's not a puppet master. I'm sure prayers like that just make him shake his head.
Mr. Pete had an intersting thought of his own on Martha and Mary. He thinks Jesus probably let the ladies work it out in sisterly love while he sought out the company of Lazarus! Maybe the Lord lets us heal ourselves that way too.