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Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

Another birthday

Today is my birthday. I am now solidly in my early 50s. Except for some occasional aches and pains it doesn't feel that much different from my early 40s or 30s. It does seem strange though to know that no more babies are coming. I keep getting asked about that though. The last three times I have gone in for some kind of medical procedure (lipoma removal, knee x-rays, etc) I have been asked if I was pregnant. While it's flattering, I point out that my birth year on the medical records is 1959. One nurse told me that they ask everyone unless they've had a hysterectomy. As I would like to hold on to all my lady parts until I die, I look forward to much amusement if they continue to ask this into my 60s and beyond! Surely there has to be a statute of limitations or a point where common sense kicks in.

But that all said, I am enjoying my late-life baby - soon-to-be 6-year-old Rosie and I wonder what all the fuss was about having a midlife baby. I remember the pre-cana NFP classes talking about being so careful to chart and follow the rules to avoid a mid-life pregnancy. Let me tell ya, having that midlife baby has been great. I didn't try to get pregnant, it just happened, but I'm so glad it did.

I'm also enjoying my older children - watching as life plays out before them and wondering what it will be like for them in a few more years. Since we homeschool I have a lot of hard work still ahead of me, but I don't mind. I could use a little break though. Maybe in August we'll take some time off.

Mr. Pete and I can't believe that we will hit 32 years of marriage this year. When we watch "old married" couples on t.v. who are hitting 20 years or 25, it's a bit jarring to realize that we beat them by at least a decade. When did we make that slide from newly married to growing old together? Don't know. Don't remember. Still it doesn't seem like this is rocking chair time. There's a lot to do and it seems the main thing in your 50s is to try to keep yourself as healthy as possible so that you can get all of that stuff done. I guess the best thing we've done for our health is keep our marriage going. I know it's been the best thing for me and I hope for him too.

Looking back, this is my second birthday without my mother. I will have to make it to 102 to have more birthdays without her than with her. So right now I still feel her loss deeply. During my last birthday with her she was on her death bed, but she was so keen on wishing me a happy birthday. I'll never forget that.

There are a few things I need to improve on in the coming year. I have physical goals I want to meet with diet and exercise. Also some prayer goals and my relationship with Christ.

Today of course is also the Feast of Justin Martyr - an early church apologist. I haven't done much apologetics on this blog until recently. I blame grief and time constraints. But from time to time I feel compelled to speak out about something and I will. A recent debate opponent said, that I need to "engage in some prayerful reflection about your (my) behavior." What my adversary isn't aware of is that when I DON'T write when I feel the compulsion to speak out, I feel guilty and cowardly. The truth in love - the best motto I think; remembering of course that not everyone recognizes the love when faced with the truth. Keeping that in mind and remembering not to take the inevitable fall out personally is my task for the next year.

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  1. Happy happy birthday, Elena.

  2. Happy Birthday!
    They still ask me- and I am a few years ahead of you.
    What I hate the most is that they always ask when my last pap was. How about my last physical? Why is it always about my female parts---lol.

  3. Happy Birthday, Elena!

    BTW, when shall we schedule your next baby shower? ;-)

    Have a blessed and beautiful celebration!

  4. Thanks guys!

    and wouldn't be a hoot if it happened again! ; )


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