Friday, April 30, 2010

7-quick takes The Toil and Trouble Edition

Join Jen and the other Quicktakers over at the Conversion Diary.

1. A little history first. Back in the mid 1990s, my husband and I were converting back to our Catholic Faith and were so lucky to find a faith-filled, extremely Catholic homeschool support group. We had monthly meetings, we had picnics, dinner parties, TONS of field trips and other get-togethers. We felt like community and it felt like home. And then it started to fall apart. Part of it was about disagreements over silly divisive stuff, like curriculum (should it be only a Catholic curriculum, and if so which Catholic curriculum is more Catholic?), or whether or not we should join the HSLDA. Part of it was also because the core of families that lived in the city all moved out, one by one, to the suburbs. That took our family sort of out of the loop because meetings moved away and all the activities and things started to cost more. But the biggest rip in the group came over the discussion about whether or not to let nonCatholics in the group. We never fully recovered from that schism and now we never meet, and no one knows who is on the leadership committee. It's really been sad.

2. So for me, finding community on line has been very important. On the homeschool front, I have loved the 4Real Forums because it is peaceful, warm, and full of very very good ideas on homeschooling and living the faith.  Sadly, they are tearing themselves apart too. I think there is a pattern.  I do believe in Satan and I think he does especially good work when a group of Godly women get together and try to forge something together that is good and strong.  He divides and destroys the group.

3.  The economy woes are getting much more personal.  Mr. Pete has gone without a paycheck off and on for many weeks and today he told me they're behind on other business bills.  It's time regrettably to lay off some employees.  Honestly, he probably should have done that a while ago but he's been hoping,  since the recession is over and all, that things would get better.

4.  Calvin too is looking for a second job but hasn't come up with one yet.  He told me, "Mom, I have enough money to pay my bills and get a little something to eat."  I kept my mouth shut about the possibility of moving back home.  When you're 20 years old maybe it's better to struggle a little bit.  Not so much fun at 50 though.

5. My EFC wants to gum up the works of our property settlement by moving a road here, or a boundary there.  It was rather nice to tell her firmly, "No.  Let's just stick to the agreement."  Can't wait to get her out of my life completely.

6. I've been living my own little purgatory, re-reading and remembering the events of last year that lead to my mother's death.  I was re-reading my words on her Caringbridge page and I was struck with how much I discussed pain, and how much pain she was in and how we couldn't control the pain.  Pain, pain, pain.  And yet before I started re-reading that I had sort of forgotten about how much physical pain she was in.  I remember the day she actually died but I couldn't remember that there was a lot of pain leading up to it.

7.  Mother's day is going to really suck.  I have decided however that I want the kids to focus on making or writing  or somehow creating something for their Godmother's for mother's day.  I think it will take my mind off the fact that this is my first mother's day without a Mom. 

As far as crafts go, I especially like this one!





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Thursday, April 29, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 04/30/2010


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Ultimate Homeschool Expo 2010 contest winner

Congratulations Julie K! She wins a comp ticket to the Ultimate Homeschool Expo 2010.


There's still time to order a ticket. I got mine today and Cindy also has a lot of pre-expo freebies that she sends including some very good downloaded talks. To check it out, click the picture below.




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Small Successes!

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1. My kids and I finished reading about the Donner Party. We had some good discussions about planning ahead, and knowing who to trust. Most people think of the Donner Party as synonymous with cannibalism, but really they are the poster children for poor planning and bad leadership. It was good to have such discussions with my kids though. They really felt a lot of empathy and did a lot of, "what would I do if I were lost in the desert or stranded in the mountains" type of thinking.

2. My efforts to get back in shape via exercise videos have rubbed off on Izzy and her friend T, who are as we speak over at T's house doing Dancin' Abs by Jazzercise

3. My two son's Sam and Gabe are not ONLY performing in Battle of the Bands in June, but they lined themselves up another "gig" at a local coffee house! Sam says, "we're living the dream." They're more like living the cat nap, but it's a start and I'm proud of them for being so persistent.




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The Memorial Service/ choir contest dilemma.

It came in the mail the middle of last week along with the other bills, bank promotions, and junk mail. A white envelope from the nursing home where my mother died. My first thought was, "Crap, I'll bet this is another bill that they are finally getting around to sending me." But it wasn't. It was an invitation, "In memory of your loved one."

Oh.

I've been to memorial services like this before. They're beautiful. Sometimes very moving and inspirational music is performed or played. Sometimes special readings. Sometimes a candle is lit for every one being remembered. Sometimes they give a flower to the survivors. Then there are cookies and punch.

I haven't been back there since the day I helped the funeral home person lift my mother's body on to a gurney to take to the funeral home. I actually even try to avoid driving by it if I can. In a way it might be nice to stop in and see some of the people that cared for mom during her last weeks of life.  But it will be painful too.

As luck would have it, that same evening Sam and Gabe are supposed to go up to the cathedral and sing in a choir contest.  I guess it is quite a big deal and very prestigious for their choir if they win.  It would also be an exciting thing for the other children to experience, and of course seeing the big city at night is always a treat for the family.

I can get rides for the boys to go with other members of the choir, but at the same time I want to be there to hear them and celebrate their performance.

... and yet part of me wants to be somewhere to memorialize mom, and to talk to people who came to know her in her last few weeks and to have a safe haven to talk to them about how it has been without her. 

I hate it when I have to make choices like this.



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Prolife discussion of the day finds me at

Uppercase Woman: The New Oklahoma Abortion Laws:

Interestingly, one of the new Oklahoma laws is about requiring a plethora of counseling and ultrasound prior to an abortion - everyone on this pro-abortion blog hates that.

The other law prohibits the release of information found on ultrsasound. They hate that too!



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Wednesday, April 28, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 04/29/2010


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Catholic Sex Scandals, Redux over at Visits to Candlyand

We're having a passionate discussion over on Visits to Candyland.

This one is particularly maddening because it seems to certain posters the church can't do enough or anything to make amends or move in the right direction and if the Catholic commenters point to progress or apologies it's "too little, too late." For example:

Visits to Candyland: Catholic Sex Scandals, Part III: "Clearly we are at crosshairs here. You provide the myriad of apologies and I provide the example of a few people who want more than words. You are coming from a position of seeing all the progress that the church has made, and to many of us it seems too little, too late (at least for many survivors and others who have left the church because of the past.)"



I'm kind of thinking there's not much else to be said, but if you're interested take a look before we close the thread.

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Ultimate Homeschool Expo contest still on until 8 Eastern tonight

Since  I am an affiliate, Cindy is allowing me to give away one ticket to this event. Simply leave a comment on this post before next Wednesday April 28 at 8 p.m. Eastern time and I'll choose one at random and send the winning e-mail to Cindy Rushton so that she can send you your "complimentary ticket."

To enter see my previous post here.

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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 04/28/2010


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My Dearest Daughter

In 1958 my mother got married and moved across the country. These are the letters written to her, mainly by her mother, between 1958 and 1960, as well as other artifacts from my family's past. Others in the series are in my del.icio.us file.

April 23, 1959

Dear Maryrose and Pete:

We got your letter today, and so I am sitting right down and answering it. I will admit that I have been a little lax and wrote a letter after we went to the concert on April 1st. I enclosed the program, and a bulletin besides my letter and put 9 cents on it, but maybe that wasn't enough postage. But where in the world did it go to? I asked you questions that I would like to know the answers to.

Did the doctor say for sure about when he thinks the baby will come? You see, I can only have three weeks off, and so I would like to be with you when the baby is here. As much as I want to hold you in my arms, I'd hate to leave without seeing your heir. I'd like to get there about a week before the baby comes, and then have two weeks, or almost two weeks with you and the baby. You did say the baby was probably due the 25th. Most times the first one is from 1 to 2 weeks late. I thought that perhaps I would leave here on the 22nd? What do you think of that?

The boys have planted 11 or almost 12 acres of oats. Your dad has a very bad cold. Gordon has to go to the hospital for about a month. That accident really fixed him up. He told Dad he was taking 11 capsules a day to keep alive. You remember he had to wear one of those neck stretchers. I guess it didn't do him any good. Were you ever lucky at the time you had your accident. Your Guardian Angel must have been with you for sure.

Oh yes, I enclosed a letter from down home. But I guess I wrote you two letters, because I enclosed Loretta's letter. Oh my poor ole head. I don't know if it is worry over you and mom, or if I should get my eyes checked, but something sure is playing hob with my old bean.

Boy we sure got a nice bunch of calves. We had two sets of twins, one both heifers and one both bulls. One of the bulls couldn't make it; the other is fine. We also lost one little heifer with pneumonia.

We got a beautiful Easter Card from Sister M. Bernadette. Next September she is going to Omaha, Nebraska to study to be an x-ray technician. Boy I'm telling you, those Beveridges are sure leaving their marks. Paul is an engineer. Loretta wrote that Mother was feeling better. She wouldn't lie down so the ticker acted up. When she was up here, if she wouldn't lie down I would get mad at her, and she would go to bed every afternoon, but at home I suppose she thought she was boss. The doctor said she could sew, wash dishes, but the boys were to weed her flowers, and she was to lie down twice a day. Loretta said the Doctor wanted to see her again in about a month, which will make it just about the time I am starting for out west. Please pray, both you and Pete, that Mom will keep getting better, and I can come out to see my precious "three".

I was going to town this afternoon, instead I typed some lectures for Fr. Donahoe. He is a lieutenant in the Civil Air Patrol. I guess the government is waking up to the fact that we had better start practicing ducking for cover. Too bad Mr. Dulles had to get so sick when his country needed him so badly. Wouldn't it be wonderful if he had his son baptize him into the Catholic Church.

Well I'm going around in circles, so I will have to close.

Let me know or rather answer my questions and I will abide by them. Take care of yourself, and tell that son of mine not to work too hard. There is tomorrow. With all our love, and

May God keep his Arms around you "three".

Mother



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Monday, April 26, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 04/27/2010


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The ACT test and my homeschool

 FYI Homeschooling Moms - I am also having a drawing TOMORROW for a comp ticket to Cindy Rushton's Ultimate Homeschool Expo - the online homeschool convention!  See this post and leave a comment to enter.


Even though I have been homeschooling for over 14 years and have one kid graduated and on his own, I am still pretty new to the SAT and ACT tests. My oldest, Calvin, never wanted to go to college and so he begrudgingly took the SAT test because I made him. The most memorable thing from that experience was what happened DURING the test. According to Calvin, "The boy next to me started to cry and I just told him, 'Hey, it's alright man.'"

sigh. His scores as expected were not great, but he did manage to get into a hospital EMT program and is now gainfully employed as an EMT and is planning to get his Paramedic training at a trade tech school next fall.

But Sam is definitely college bound and so I wanted him to try the ACT or the SAT.  There is a difference between the two exams.  We started our journey with the practice tests - the PLAN and PSAT.  The PSAT experience was awful and you can read all about that here. It was such a hassle to arrange and his scores were just not anywhere as encouraging as the PLAN test had been, so I decided to focus only on the ACT. I know another homeschool kid who did much better on the PSAT than the PLAN, so they went the other direction.  To each his own  - whatever works best for the student is the way to go.

See Lee Binz's article on ACT or SAT. 

A veteran homeschooling friend of mine provided the following information, used here with permission::


It is important for students to realize that these tests are important, so they are personally motivated to do the work necessary to maximize their score. A good score on the test can make the difference in college admission and how much scholarship money is available to you.

General preparation includes taking math and science throughout high school and doing lots of reading and writing of all different sorts. Practicing reading comprehension can be useful, using books such as More Reading Comprehension in Varied Subject Matter.



If grammar and punctuation is a problem, Editor in Chief (B and C) is helpful.



Also helpful (for the SAT only) is doing a vocabulary course such as Vocabulary for the College Bound.


ACT


Explore every aspect of the site.

Particularly use the resources on the Test Prep page

Do the ACT question of the day every day. (You can get it show up on your Facebook daily by "becoming a fan".)  (Note from me:  Also on Twitter.


Get a test prep book. We use Cracking the ACT. Set yourself a schedule and work on it regularly. Take all the practice tests in the book (after going through the book). Time yourself when you take the practice tests. Carefully study the questions you get wrong.

If there is any area you want to improve in, take more sample tests. Do a search for ACT prep on Amazon.com.

You could take the real test at least once before it really matters. We start with taking it as a freshman. There is no better practice than actually taking the test under real test conditions. A good way to start preparing for the SAT is by taking the PLAN test as freshman or sophomore. (It is an easier test for younger students, but it is very similar to the ACT. )

Of course there are lots of courses you can pay for, too. You could sign up for the official online preparation program for $19.95 a year.

See also Barron's Test Prep Site.

I had Sam take the ACT test a few weeks ago.  His results were not quite what I had hoped for but I reminded him (and myself) that this was our "baseline" test.  This was to see where we needed to go and what we had to work on. Today I showed the test to his math tutor and he said, "That's not too bad for the first time!" so that was encouraging.  He also told me that the average score is between 18 and 22 (Wickepedia said 21) and that makes Sam well within striking distance.

We'll study this summer and take it in the fall and then again in the winter.  You can take it up to 12 times, but the average is 3 times.  Sam's tutor took it three times and he's brilliant in math!

So that's the plan.

For Gabe I am hoping to administer the PLAN test this spring or summer and then start his college bound journey!


Explore, ACT and Plan Tests
Sam's Plan Test results.
Standard Tests and My Homeschooled Kid







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Before my comment gets removed as being inappropriate - again

This blog had a brief post about a 10-Year-Old Rape Victim in Mexico. I left a brief comment yesterday that abortion isn't necessarily the panacea they are trying to make it out to be, and surgical abortion comes with physical risks (bleeding, infection, scarring, infertility) as well as emotional and psychological. In essence, you're just trading one set of problems for another. I also provided a link to an interview with Lianna Rebolledo, a woman who was raped at 13, became pregnant and raised her daughter who is now 20 years old.

My comment was removed as being "Massively inappropriate, and therefore deleted."

in other words, don't confuse me with a different valid point of view. Anyway, in case this one gets deleted, I wrote:

"...yea, i can see how the opinion of a mom who actually HAS a 10-year-old daughter and who might bring up the psychological, emotional and physical consequences of an abortion at that age to the discussion , as well as providing a link to witness of a woman who endured a pregnancy at the age of 13 and happily kept and raised her now-adult daughter might be inappropriate to a discussion about a 10-year-old, pregnant rape victim...shrug."


An actual news story on the case here.

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Simple Woman


 FYI Homeschooling Moms - I am also having a drawing TOMORROW for a comp ticket to Cindy Rushton's Ultimate Homeschool Expo - the online homeschool convention!  See this post and leave a comment to enter.


Outside my window...
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It's Lilac time!

I am thinking...
about the bagpiper I met last week. On Monday I went to a funeral for a friend's father. The gentleman had been in the navy for World War II, and so the bagpiper played the Navy Hymn as he led the casket into the church and out. He also played Amazing Grace. At the grave side, after the service was over, he stood in the distance and played "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling." It was really impressive.

Flash forward to Saturday and I am running my first wedding of the season for the church. The couple had hired a bagpiper to lead them down the aisle after the ceremony and I could hear the pipes in the basement. I went down there to introduce myself, and it turns out it was the same piper!

During the wedding we chatted and he told me that he first heard the bagpipes up close and personal when he was 20 years old and he was hooked! He started taking lessons and never looked back. Now 15 years later he has quite a career going for himself. He really is a joy to listen to.

I am thankful for...
a good night's sleep. Lately I have been sleeping like a dead woman. Out like a light for 7 solid hours!

From the learning rooms...
I think Sam and I are going to start dissecting his ACT results and really trying to figure out what we can do to better his score next fall. We will also continue to work towards the CLEP test in American History. The younger kids and I are reading about California and the Donner Party!

From the kitchen...
Turkey burritos tomorrow, ham and egg noodles in a white sauce on Tuesday and a pot roast for Wednesday!
I am wearing...
Black pants and white 3/4 length sleeve shirt.

I am creating...
a work plan for next week with typing and homeschool as well as working out.  Trying to figure out how getting the Liturgy in the Hours fits into my life. 


I am going...
to reorganize my classroom, continue my cleaning spree in the laundry room and keep working out in the mornings while running with Izzy's friend in the evening.

I am reading...
I'm reviewing Bravewriter and Help for High School.
The Perilous Journey of the Donner Party


I am hoping...
to have more of you homeschoolers enter my contest for the Ultimate Homeschool Expo!

A few years ago I "attended" Cindy Rushton's Online Ultimate Homeschool Expo and was blown away by all of the information. I have a lot of the talks still on my computer that I can download to an MP3 and listen to at MY CONVENIENCE. And this is a perfect time of year to - to get inspired to finish the current school year and start planning for the next!

Online Seminars with With 35+ Speakers!
Virtual Vendor Hall!
Free Gifts--ebooks, audios, downloads!
Special offers from your favorite Online Vendors!
Mp3 Downloads for all audios (over $1000 in workshops!)

Since I am an affiliate, Cindy is allowing me to give away one ticket to this event. Simply leave a comment on this post before next Wednesday April 28 at 8 p.m. Eastern time and I'll choose one at random and send the winning e-mail to Cindy Rushton so that she can send you your "complimentary ticket."

I am hearing...
Sam, Gabe and the singers practicing for the youth mass to be done next month!


Around the house...

laundry room march to the sea... er the washing machine!

A few plans for the rest of the week:
Sam has a soccer game on Tuesday - way out in the next county!   Write a letter to Aunt Dorothy.  

A picture I am sharing:  
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Rosie the Soccer Girl- ready for action. 



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Sunday, April 25, 2010

Sunday Snippets - A Catholic Carnival

Sunday Snippets--A Catholic Carnival is a weekly opportunity to share our best posts with the wider Catholic blogging community. To participate, create a post highlighting posts that would be of interest to Catholics and link to the host blog at This That and the Other Blog. Go to the host blog and leave a comment giving a link to your post.


I found the commencement address given by Reverend William M. O'Beirne, O.P. at St. Mary's College Notre Dame, Indiana on August 1, 1952 - my mother's graduation. It is entitled The Catholic Teacher and Theology. What is fascinating to me is that this was written about 15 years or so before the "spirit of Vatican II" started dumbing down Catholic education in the Catholic schools. I'll be blogging on this for the next couple of weeks on Sunday Snippets - see what you think.
Our late Holy Father, Pope Pius XI, in his encyclical on the Christian Education of Youth made this statement:

The product of Christian education is the supernatural man who thinks, judges and acts constantly and consistently in accordance with right reason, illumined by the supernatural light of the example and teaching of Christ. (p 89)

There are two observations we would like to make on this statement.

First, since the individual just described by our late holy Father is the product of Christian education, it follows that the object, the end of any Christian educator, any Catholic teacher, and so the object that practically all of you must have in view in your life's work, is to cooperate with divine grace in teaching students to think, judge and act by the way just described.

Second, theology may be very aptly described as the science that gives one facility in thinking, judging and acting, constantly and consistently, in accordance with right reason, illumined by the supernatural light of the example and teaching of Christ.

You will probably agree with these observations. Granting that they are correct, it seems obvious that theology is the best intellectional preparation that the Christian educator, the Catholic teacher, can be provided with, if she is to attain the object, the end of Christian education.

Let me illustrate this truth a little.
Apparently around 1965 or so the idea of teaching theology didn't matter any more because at that point, at least in my young Catholic education, we started doing a lot of burlap banners complete with felt butterflies - and that passed as religion class... barf!


Continued next week.
The Catholic Teacher and Theology


Also - this week I blogged about my mother's college yearbook from St. Mary's College (The sister college of Notre Dame at the time), complete with pictures!

My co-blogger Kelly writes a well-researched post on the sex scandal in the church.



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Friday, April 23, 2010

7-Quick Takes

Join Jen and the other Quicktakers over at the Conversion Diary.

1. I think I mentioned before that Sam is an official Soccer Ref this season. He took and passed the $65 course and then we shelled out another $75 for shirts, shorts, socks, whistle, and other stuff that came in the kit. However he has only been able to get one game this week, one next and then one in mid-May so far. I estimated that at roughly $20 per game he will have to do more than 8 to break even - and that doesn't take into consideration the cost of gas to the games! I really hate how they are assigning games this year.

When Calvin was a soccer ref, they had a site where he or I could log in and then snap up as many games as we could handle. The assignors could take away a game if they needed to but for the most part, Calvin had a game just about every night during soccer season.

This year I had to give the assignors Sam's availability and they were supposed to assign him. When we never heard from them I started watching e-mails for open games which is a lot more difficult to wait for. I was hoping he would be able to make a couple of hundred during soccer season (one year Calvin made $600!) but I think those days are long gone.

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2. Got Sam's ACT scores back and they were a little disappointing. I felt kind of bd about it but I bought the McGraw-Hill's ACT, 2010 Edition (Mcgraw Hill's Act), paid for the online Prep Program. The rest was kind of up to Sam. I think he gets that now. I'm so glad we took it this spring so now he can try it again next fall.

As an interesting aside, I guess you're allowed to take it up to 12 times! - good to know!


3. So as soon as I finished analyzing Sam's scores I started to come up with strategies to make his score higher, and the first thought I had was, "I've got to call mom to see if she has any ideas about this English score." And in the same interest I realized I couldn't call her and I would never be able to call her and I felt so incredibly sad and alone.

4. I will say though that last year I had Sam read the Scarlet Letter, Moby Dick, some Washington Irving and Huckleberry Finn - and the literature part of the English score was the highest!

5. Baby Josie Duggar went back into the hospital last week and I haven't heard any updates on her yet.  The whole situation reminded me of discussions I had previously regarding life or death pregnancy decisions for the mother and the baby. The Duggar's aren't Catholic, but I think their entire situation beautifully illustrates the Catholic moral teachings on proportionate reasons and secondary effect.  Mrs. Duggar was very, sick with pre-eclampsia.  She was delivered at 25 weeks, even if such a delivery could have ended the life of the child, because her condition was that proportionately dire.  The baby has been treated and given medical care since then and even despite this most recent set back, is expected to do recover. This was all the way around, the right and good way to handle the situation.

6.  Have my first wedding rehearsal of the season tonight and am looking forward to it.

7.  In the room behind me I can hear my little girl playing with her dolls and doing all of the voices, "Hi, my name is Tinkerbell!"  I can also hear my teenage sons downstairs practicing their rock band.  Such is life.!


Bonus - A picture of Mr. Pete and me as drawn by Miss Rosie!
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