Sunday, February 28, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 03/01/2010

  • Proving once more that God works in mysterious ways!

    tags: marriage

  • Kind of sobering!

    tags: finance, recession

  • I had Rosie at 46! My father lived to 93 and my great grandma made it to 98 -so maybe...

    tags: pregnancy

    • If you’re around age 40 and trying to get
      pregnant - take hope in the fact that women who have babies in
      their 40s have longer lives! The benefits of late motherhood are
      physical, social, and emotional.
    • According to the University of Utah, women how have babies
      naturally in the 40s or 50s tend to live longer than other women
      (it may be different for women coping with infertility and using in
      vitro fertilization or other solutions for infertility).


      “If women in your family give birth at older ages, you may well
      have a chance of living longer than you would otherwise,” says the
      study’s lead author, Ken Smith, a professor of family and consumer
      studies at the University of Utah. “If you have a female relative
      who had children after age 45, then there may be some genetic
      benefit in your family that will enhance your longevity.”


      Heredity - far more than environmental factors - plays a role in
      prolonged fertility and longer lifespans.

    • Having a baby after age 45?! This study shows
      that women who had “late fertility” - a birth at age 45 or older -
      were 14 to 17% less likely to die during any year after age 50 than
      women who did not deliver a child after age 40. Smith says
      scientists believe genes account for up to 25% of differences in
      longevity.


      Other studies found that late menopause also is associated with
      women having prolonged fertility and longevity. So the later your
      menopause is, the longer you may live! And the more chances you
      have to conceive a baby (especially important if you’re coping with
      unknown infertility, or are trying other ways to get pregnant).

  • Analysis of all the claims made at the Health Care Summit last week.

    tags: healthcare


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I was AWOL most of the week - and it felt good too!!

But I did get this out about health care today and the Catholic part is towards the end.

Here's a Lenten Meal suggestion!

And Saint Polycarp - one of my favorite saints, had a feast day last week!




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Middle Aged Mom's Musings on Health Care

Sorry for the light blogging this week. The first week of lent just made me feel a little bit more reflective, introspective and private and every time I sat down to blog I found that I had nothing to say - so I didn't.

I did spend a lot of time and attention on the Health Care issue this week and wanted to record some of my thoughts on that.

My first thought is - with the economy in shambles why are the President and the Congress spending so much time with health care. Wouldn't it make more sense to get people back to work first? It sure seems to me that besides supporting our troops in peril over seas, getting the economy roaring back should be enough of a full time job for our elected officials.Nonetheless, Health Care is going to be the topic in Washington for a few more weeks at least.

Mr. Pete and I have had a rocky relationship with Health Insurance and Health Care.  When Mr. Pete was a kid he was insured through his father's job with General Motors.  I had it through my mom's employment as a public school teacher.  The attachment of employment to health benefits came about because of government meddling in the market place. 


When we first got married, we had health insurance through Mr. Pete's work. Later I had it too through my job and we were doubly insured. However we eventually figured out that employment related health insurance could be like golden handcuffs, making it more difficult for us to consider any changes in our employment status.  I remember really agonizing over it with the birth of my first baby and when Mr. Pete set out to fulfill his lifelong dream of having his own business. When he did start his own business we were without health care for quite a while.

That was one of the reasons we started having our babies at home - the cost was significantly lower! We had three homebirth experiences and the cost for all three didn't come anywhere near the cost of just one of our hospital births. We were lucky that our family doctor at the time was strictly fee-for-service so for under $30 we could have an office visit and pay cash for it. It was great! until he moved to the southern part of the state.

Since then Mr. Pete has had insurance for us at work but the premiums keep getting higher and higher. A few years ago Mr. Pete's company started a medical savings account plan. It has a $5000 deductible per person, per year. The idea was that they would have lower premiums and put the savings into these accounts, but one of their employees developed a chronic condition and employees' children got sick a lot so there was never any money going into those accounts. And since we are the family of the owner and not employees, our chance to use this savings plan was just about nil. Sometimes I tell Mr. Pete I would do better financially if he divorced me and then just hired me as an employee!

It's true what they say- you really do become a better health care consumer when you are paying for it yourself.  When we were uninsured we were surprised to find out that our costs were higher because we couldn't get the group discount that insurance companies negotiated for their customers. So it turned out that because we couldn't afford the premiums for health insurance, we were charged the higher artificially inflated billing amounts - i.e. the $3 aspirin tablet or $5 sanitary pad instead of the lower costs our insured peers were billed.

But even with insurance having such a big deductible could really suck. Long time readers might remember I ended up being charged $400 for two kids with strep throat - office visit was $100 each and the lab test and blood work was $100 each. That was kind of unbelievable.


There were some rip offs with the insurance too (besides the premiums). Mr. Pete says that routine health visits and check ups would be free but his free physical cost us about $500. My sister said someone must have coded it wrong. I haven't bothered with mine yet.

Our health experience also once included  a stint with our state's Medicaid program but my feelings about it are mixed. It was nice to know that if we needed to use it, it was there, but I had to jump through a LOT of hoops to get it and the paper work for the program had to be completed every six months. It was very time consuming. I also remember going to check out one of the dentists on the program. The waiting room consisted of carpet-covered boxes attached to the wall instead of chairs. There weren't private rooms for each patient with a dentist but instead about a dozen chairs in a circle in one big room. That was a little intimidating as well. I remember laying back in the chair, trying to get comfortable in this public surrounding with the dentist next to me starting his examination when I noticed that the light above me that he was using for guidance caught fire. Literally. I grabbed his hand out of mouth and shouted - LOOK! I never went back. Took my kids somewhere else for dental treatment and never regretted it!

I spent a lot of time reading other people's thoughts on the topic last week.  Cecily wrote eloquently about her struggles. While I oppose universal health care I do agree with her that the system needs to be reformed and one of the reforms I would like to see is cutting the tie between insurance and employment with the idea being that if individuals and families were the main market for insurance programs, the premiums would have to come down.

I've also been debating this with some folks on Facebook that reflected some of the Catholic thought on the topic. On the pro-big government side several big guns were drawn as support for universal health care: GAUDIUM ET SPES (although I note the word "taxes" only appears once, "medical" once, "medicine" not at all and "health" only four times), the catechism particularly paragraph 2288 ( although I note that paying taxes is only mentioned once and while it says society out of concern for its citizens has to help attain living-conditions that allow them to grow and reach maturity: food and clothing, housing, health care, basic education, employment, and social assistance, it doesn't say it has to be done through taxation and big government. In fact the catechism only says once that citizens are obliged to pay their taxes) and a pastoral letter from the USCCB which  seemed to take it a step further .  Some discussion ensued about the infallibility of pastoral letters. I dunno about that. I remember learning about the Winnipeg Statement and while I guess that wasn't exactly a pastoral letter it, to the lay person, it seemed to have the backup of the Canadian bishops. Nonetheless I don't think Economic Justice for All is the infallible thumbs up for Obamacare. And sadly even amongst Catholic Facebook Friends the discussion  got kind of heated.

To me things seem a little simpler than all of that. Households can't spend more money than they take in. If that's how my household has to run, it seems that that is how the government needs to run as well. It that sense it's a good thing the public option is dead for now. More competition amongst insurance companies and eventually tort reform seem to be good steps towards bringing health care costs down. I haven't been able to find and read the nitty gritty of the President's plan yet. , but it sounds as if it's going to be very expensive and that can't be good for the country right now.

My own thinking goes like this:
Health care started to get out of control when government got involved. You know why health care is tied to employment? Because the government prohibited employers from giving higher salaries and to entice the best and the brightest companies started offering health care benefits- and Pandora's box was opened. When did prices start to spiral upward? With the advent of Medicare - and so it goes.

The answer to my mind is in less government and lower taxes and maybe even following the constitution! and with that kind of repression behind us, people will feel even more able to find creative and effective ways to reach out to the less fortunate.

In my opinion, Americans are the most generous people in the world. We are always donating for relief efforts at home and abroad. Let BIG government get out of the way and let us do that in bigger and better ways.

A pipe dream I know. In the meantime though I have crossed one Catholic college of my list as a possible "look see" for my high school junior, and feel reaffirmed in my decision to home school high school rather than paying Catholic high school tuition. I guess Catholic Social Justice teaching as it is currently being presented is way to liberal for me, and in conscience I couldn't support  it with tuition dollars. I need every dime I can get for my insurance premium anyway!









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Thursday, February 25, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 02/26/2010

  • Oh Joe - how I love you so! the gaffs just keep on coming.

    tags: areyousorryyet?

    • "It's easy being vice president — you don't have to do anything."



      Whomever Biden was chatting with said, "It's like being the grandpa and not the parent."



      "Yeah, that's it!" replied Biden.

  • It's a rare day that I find something to agree with in the Huffington Post but this is one that I totally support. Of my four sons only the first one was circumcised by my OB, and he took so little of the foreskin that another pediatrician considered my son to be uncircumcised - so he had all of the pain but none of the so called "benefit" of being circumcised. After that we just never had it done to the other boys and they have not suffered from UTIs or any other problems.

    tags: circumcision, healthcare

    • In the weeks ahead, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) are likely to publish a recommendation that all infant boys undergo circumcision. This is a huge mistake. Circumcision is an unnecessary procedure that is painful and can lead to complications, including death. No organization in the world currently recommends this. Why should we routinely remove normal, functioning tissue from the genitals of little boys within days of their birth?

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Wednesday, February 24, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 02/25/2010

  • Ugh... I really don't want to take the time to learn Word 2007 yet, but I might have to in the future. This will be good to know!

    tags: computer

  • tags: olympics, grief

  • tags: homeschool, reading, lists, highschool, college

  • Um... but how can that be? Legal abortions are supposed to be safe? right?

    tags: abortion

    • PHILADELPHIA (AP) - Federal agents raided a clinic where abortions are performed and found "deplorable and unsanitary" conditions, including blood on the floor and parts of aborted fetuses in jars, according to the state agency that shut it down and suspended the license of the doctor in charge.


      In the order suspending Dr. Kermit Gosnell's license, the Pennsylvania Department of State's Board of Medicine said investigators found numerous health and safety risks at Gosnell's abortion and pain-management clinic, including a preoperative and recovery area that consisted of several recliners grouped together.


      The Women's Medical Society clinic is open during the day, but Gosnell does not arrive until somewhere between 6 p.m. and 9 p.m. and is the only person with a medical license working there, according to the order.


      A clinic employee told investigators that Gosnell directed her in his absence to conduct gynecological examinations and administer painkillers to patients, the document states.


      The temporary suspension of Gosnell's license follows at least two raids by agents from the Drug Enforcement Administration and the FBI. At the time of one raid - at 9 p.m. on Feb. 18 - investigators found the clinic full of patients.

  • Discussion I was involved with on this site - not much new though.

    tags: abortion


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Works for Me Wednesday - a fun Lenten Meal



A couple of weeks ago I boughtBiggest Loser Family Cookbook: Budget-Friendly Meals Your Whole Family Will Love to add some more healthy meal choices to my repertoire. One of them so far turned out to be a new Lenten favorite!

It's called Hula Pizza and it's in the appetizer section but we easily turned it into a meal and even put our own twist on it!

It's very simple- you take a burrito shell and top it with a thin layer of barbecue sauce. We all agreed that when it comes to the sauce for this recipe, plainer is better! Then you top with feta cheese and pineapple chunks, heat under the broiler for a few minutes and then it's ready to eat.

We decided that a few chopped green onions made it a little tastier and also if we folded the burrito and put it on the George Foreman it was just as tasty and easier to eat for little hands.

And for a nonLenten meal I think chopped cook chicken might be a nice topping for this as well.

Works for Me!






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Lenten Embertide

Lenten Embertide:
Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday after Quadragesima Sunday (the first Sunday of Lent) are known as "Lenten Embertide," which, depending on the date of Easter, can come as early as February 11, but which is seen as associated with the season of Spring (March, April, May). Liturgically, the lessons for the Wednesday and Saturday Masses focus on the Commandments given to Moses by God, and on the promises to those who keep them well, all ending with the story of the three lads saved by an angel from Nabuchodonosor's furnace, as is so for all but Whit Embertide.

The Gospel readings speak of Our Lord discoursing on the sign of Jonas, and how exorcised spirits can return (Matthew 12:38-50), healing the paralytic (John 5:1-15), and the Transfiguration (Matthew 17:1-9)


"Spring is the fulfillment of Winter's hope, beginning in rain and ending in a riot of birth and rebirth. How perfect, then, that we begin it all with the Lenten fast and the commemoration of Christ's Passion, and end with Easter, when Christ vanquishes His tomb, and catechumens are born again by water and Spirit! Sensually, Spring is a season of trees done up in green with pastel trim... the breathtaking blue of a robin's egg... the cool, waxy pleasure of tulip petals against the skin... butterflies fickle to flowers they mimic with their delicate wings... newborn animals struggling to open their eyes and see the world they help make beautiful."

HT Another Day in Paradise for this link.



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Tuesday, February 23, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 02/24/2010

  • tags: olympics, nuns



    • Twelve years ago, when she was Kirstin Holum, she was reaching for her skates instead. In 1998 she competed for the United States at the Winter Olympics in Nagano, Japan. After placing sixth in the 3,000-meter and seventh in the 5,000-meter speedskating races, the 17-year-old was recognized as a prodigy racing against older women in their prime.



      Instead of continuing her speedskating career, she joined the Franciscan Sisters of the Renewal, an order founded in New York in 1988. In September she arrived in England to work with the poor, with youth and to evangelize. She is a member of a community of four nuns -- three American and one English -- based in a house that, until last year, was owned and occupied by the Sisters of Mercy.



      "I could have gone on" with speedskating, Sister Catherine told Catholic News Service in a Feb. 22 telephone interview. "I was thinking this (Vancouver, British Columbia) could have been my fourth Olympics, but I am so grateful the Lord led me to where I am now."

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Saint Polycarp



Polycarp is one of my favorite saints because he is such a good example of a complete life in Christ. I love the fact that he actually learned from St. John too - my favorite apostle.

Polycarp in Greek comes from two words “poly” meaning many or much, and “carp” meaning fruit. Obviously his Christian parents named him Polycarp along with a prayer that he would bear much fruit for the Kingdom of God — which he did.

It also inspires me that Polycarp was bishop for 70 years, which shows me that faith and bravery isn't something just for the young, but grows with middle age and into the golden years as well.

Today we read about St. Polycarp's life and discussing his bravery. I don't see much honor in killing an old man, and it's ironic that instead of silencing him, his death brought even more to the new Christian faith.

A very readable version of his martyrdom is here.



“Stand fast, therefore, in this conduct and follow the example of the Lord, ‘firm and unchangeable in faith, lovers of the brotherhood, loving each other, united in truth,’ helping each other with the mildness of the Lord, despising no man” (Polycarp, Letter to the Philippians).

Flee wicked arts; but all the more discourse regarding them. Speak to
my sisters, that they love in our Lord, and that their husbands be
sufficient for them in the flesh and spirit. Then, again, charge my
brethren in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that they love their wives,
as our Lord His Church. If any man is able in power to continue in
purity,(1) to the honour of the flesh of our Lord, let him continue so
without boasting; if he boasts, he is undone; if he become known apart from
the bishop, he has destroyed himself.(2) It is becoming, therefore, to men
and women who marry, that they marry with the counsel of the bishop, that
the marriage may be in our Lord, and not in lust. Let everything,
therefore, be [done] for the honour of God.

"I have served Him eighty-six years and in no way has He dealt unjustly with me; so how can I blaspheme my King who saved me?

Patron against earache and dysentery.


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Monday, February 22, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 02/23/2010

  • tags: no_tag

    • As it worked out, the politicians ignored the Good Father one more time, and the Basicland banks were allowed to open bucket shops and to finance the purchase and carry of real securities with extreme financial leverage. A couple of economic messes followed, during which every constituency tried to avoid hardship by deflecting it to others. Much counterproductive governmental action was taken, and the country's credit was reduced to tatters. Basicland is now under new management, using a new governmental system. It also has a new nickname: Sorrowland.
  • The parable of Basicland explains where America went wrong.

    tags: economy, finance

    • The Europeans rapidly repopulated Basicland, creating a new nation. They installed a system of government like that of the early United States. There was much encouragement of trade, and no internal tariff or other impediment to such trade. Property rights were greatly respected and strongly enforced. The banking system was simple. It adapted to a national ethos that sought to provide a sound currency, efficient trade, and ample loans for credit-worthy businesses while strongly discouraging loans to the incompetent or for ordinary daily purchases.
    • Moreover, almost no debt was used to purchase or carry securities or other investments, including real estate and tangible personal property. The one exception was the widespread presence of secured, high-down-payment, fully amortizing, fixed-rate loans on sound houses, other real estate, vehicles, and appliances, to be used by industrious persons who lived within their means. Speculation in Basicland's security and commodity markets was always rigorously discouraged and remained small. There was no trading in options on securities or in derivatives other than "plain vanilla" commodity contracts cleared through responsible exchanges under laws that greatly limited use of financial leverage.
    • The tax system was also simple. In the early years, governmental revenues came almost entirely from import duties, and taxes received matched government expenditures. There was never much debt outstanding in the form of government bonds.
    • Basicland was exceptionally creditworthy, with no significant deficit ever allowed. And the present value of large "off-book" promises to provide future medical care and pensions appeared unlikely to cause problems, given Basicland's steady 3 percent growth in GDP per person and restraint in making unfunded promises. Basicland seemed to have a system that would long assure its felicity and long induce other nations to follow its example—thus improving the welfare of all humanity.

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Simple Woman


Outside my window...
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I am thinking...
about Calvin being out on his own. Very proud of him and how he arranged everything and made a smooth transition. I was also impressed with how much reading he is doing now on his own. Long-time readers might remember that Calvin had difficulty learning to read and that with the help of a reading specialist, he finally became a fluent reader at the age of 12. Now I knew some other adults who had had trouble learning to read but none of them seemed to really enjoy reading even in adulthood. One person was even a doctor! So I knew it was possible to be a late reader and still be able to tackle college work, but I didn't know anyone who learned to read late and the LOVED reading. But apparently that is what has happened to Calvin. He reads all the time now and I'm very happy for him and happy for all the long hours we put in together to achieve that!

I am thankful ...
for Dr. Holinga - who made reading recovery possible!

From the learning rooms...
We continue with The Screwtape Letters and A Philadelphia Catholic in King James's Court with Gabe in preparation for confirmation. I am moving Gabe to the end of General Science so that he can study anatomy with us. I added the assignment of reading through the Bravewriter Help for High School Course and we are going to continue with the Restoration in American History.  We are definitely going to see Les Misrable this week for Movie Day after hearing our parochial vicar give such a good homily about it yesterday for the first Sunday of Lent. 

From the kitchen...
I have some great recipes planned this week from

Fabulous '50s Recipe Collection (Favorite Brand Name Recipes) 




I am wearing...

Black pants,white stretch top with 3/4 length sleeves - I LOVE 3/4 length sleeves.


I am creating...
some ideas for summer dresses I'd like to make for the girls this summer.  Mentioned this to Mr. Pete with the hopes that he will finish my sewing area up!

I am going...
to the confirmation tonight for Gabe.  He and Sam are once again supplying the music.  I'm so proud of them.

I am reading...
starting 



Going Rogue: An American Life  

but I got side tracked by The Hand of God: A Journey from Death to Life by the Abortion Doctor Who Changed His Mind  The Hand of God: A Journey from Death to Life by the Abortion Doctor Who Changed His Mind


I am hoping...
to lose two or three pounds this week.  I lost three last week by just keeping on track with my Weight Watchers Points!

I am hearing...
ears buzz and computer hum! 

Around the house...

I am determined to have all school work done in the classroom this week.  I thought I could have the kids bring their school crates upstairs, do their school work and then take the crates back down but they never seem to be able to do that and then stuff gets lost.  So I cleaned up the classroom AGAIN and am determined to keep them all down their today!

A few plans for the rest of the week:
Major laundry will be my biggest effort this week!

A picture I am sharing:
This is a statue of St. Theresa outside of our church. I saw this snow on her and thought it looked like she was carrying a small child on her back. The kids thought it looked more like a monkey! Anyway... it looks to us like a small being sitting playfully on her back with arms and legs wrapped around!
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Sunday, February 21, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 02/22/2010


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I didn't do a lot of blogging last week. But I did talk about our Pre-cana day experiences here. And our talk is even on Youtube!

My Ash Wednesday and Lenten post is here. All of my favorite Links For Lent are in my del.icio.us file.

One of the best Lenten Posts I read this week was on my friend TSO's Blog here. He found this gem from Mother Angelica on Catholic Answers.

The other day I caught a few minutes of her show, recorded in Feb. 1994. It was just before Lent. A lady called in and told Mother she was a coffee addict. Mother replied (everyone gasped) that she drank at least three cups herself each day.

The caller was wrestling over whether or not, or even if she could, surrender coffee as a Lenten penance.

Mother listened for a minute and told her all she heard in her voice was "Coffee!" The lady was obsessing over coffee. Mother replied that she should be obssessing over Jesus instead, and doing whatever it was she was going to do at Lent out of love. Mother suggested the lady have one cup each morning, for her sanity, and give up coffee the rest of the day. That way, with coffee out of the way, she wouldn't be obssessing over coffee all day, could more easily give it up later in the day, and concentrate on other devotion, not to mention the rest of her life, instead.
I went looking for that on Youtube but I couldn't find it.  Found this nugget of wisdom from Mother Angelica instead.







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Friday, February 19, 2010

7- Quick Takes Friday

Join Jen and the other Quicktakers over at the Conversion Diary.

1. OK, so I'm obsessive. We got the PDF files of the Pre-Cana evaluations this week and I've been thinking about them. A lot. First of all, I guess I should mention that our talk, Marriage as a Sacrament/ Making a Christian Home, did get singled out for several very lovely comments. For example:

The Marriage as a sacrament was my favorite. The couple had an open and friendly manner, and the speech was engaging and enjoyable.

Marriage as a Sacrament - good speaker

Marriage a Sacrament - Very good examples.

...and Marriage as a Sacrament were very helpful to me personally.

2. But we also got singled out for this:

I thought all of the talks were well done and helpful except for the Marriage as a Sacrament one. I understand that they are happy with their children, but I did not understand how they related to the topic. The audience was clearly taxed by this time of the session and this topic was far from engaging.

I'll bet I know who wrote that as I could NOT get this guy to make eye contact with me during the speech at all. But anyway, it's up on Youtube so you decide.

3. A few years ago one of the respondents wrote "Don't Talk about dead babies," and some of you suggested that perhaps this young lady had had an abortion or some other type of pregnancy loss. This year we had a lady write:
The amount of speakers who stressed having kids over and over was unbearable. Some people can't have children, that should be considered. Some can't afford to adopt.
Well that got my attention. My thought is that the rest of the culture is pretty good about saturating young people with contraceptive ads and the message that children are to be allowed in very limited quantities if we can't contracept or abort them away. I don't think hearing the counter message for one day is going to hurt anyone - unless perhaps someone sitting for the day already knows ahead of time that they have an infertility issue. There is a paragraph from the catechism that deals with this and I'm thinking of inserting it for next year's talk.

Couples who discover that they are sterile suffer greatly. "What will you give me," asks Abraham of God, "for I continue childless?"164 And Rachel cries to her husband Jacob, "Give me children, or I shall die!"
I need to think, pray and read about it a little more before next year.

4. Like my new header?  The lovely Alexa designed it for me!  She's so creative.

5.  My baby moved out.  Calvin was bound and determined to be out by his 21st birthday and he did it with months to spare.  I thought I would feel really bad about it. (I feel a little bad about it - okay, I'm quite weepy but I also weep at Hallmark Card commercials so it is what it is.)  On one hand I am quite proud of him and it was time for him to go.  He needed more space to listen to whatever he wants to on the radio or watch on t.v. and he needs his own space in the fridge. He also tended to be a little inappropriate with his language in front of his younger siblings.  Maybe he'll appreciate us a little more if he has to work for everything he has.

6.  On the other hand it kills me to think of him spending $500 a month on rent and utilities instead of saving it - especially in this economy.  Also it was hard enough having him get to mass when he lived here - I can't imagine that will be better when he is on his own.  But he did go with us to Ash Wednesday mass so maybe...

7.  It did kind of hurt my feelings a little when friends on facebook and in real life were congratulating him for "getting out."  He's leaving home for cryin out load, not making parole!  Truthfully I sort of resented those remarks.

# bonus quick take - but this Lent is going to be about letting go of grudges and bad feelings.  I simply added some things to "hidden" on Facebook.  I also took some blogs out of my Reader - particularly blogs that I simply followed because we had once had a disagreement. Life's too short.





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Wednesday, February 17, 2010

My Domestic Church Daily Clips 02/18/2010


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40 Days for Life

40 Days for Life Day 1 Devotional.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

My Dearest Daughter

In 1958 my mother got married and moved across the country. These are the letters written to her, mainly by her mother, between 1958 and 1960. Others in the series are in my del.icio.us file.

No Letter this week but I found this Valentine instead!

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Lent




The penitential season of Lent is the period of forty week-days beginning on Ash Wednesday. It is a season of the Church year that commemorates the forty days Jesus fasted and prayed in the wilderness before He began His public ministry of preaching for repentance. Six Sundays are within the season; the last, Passion Sunday, marks the beginning of Holy Week. Holy Thursday begins the Triduum (three days) before Easter day, which includes Good Friday and Holy Saturday.

The Church has devoted a period of time to prayer and fasting as a preparation for the liturgical commemoration of the Passion of Christ and the celebrations of the feast of the Resurrection, Easter Day, since very early times. In 604 Pope Gregory I defined Lent as "The spiritual tithing of the year", a time of solemn spiritual and physical preparation for our own acceptance of salvation through Christ's sacrifice. (Ordinary tithing meant to give a tenth part ­ a tithe ­ of one's goods to God. Lent's forty days represents about a tenth of the year.)

The word "Lent" comes from the Anglo-Saxon word "lencten", referring to the lengthening of days in the Spring. Lent, of course, is an English word. In Latin, still the official language of the the Catholic Church, the entire season is known as Quadrigesima, or "forty".

The season of Lent calls Christians to imitate the forty days of prayer and fasting of Jesus. The period of forty days is significant. When God punished the sinfulness of mankind by the Flood, the rain lasted forty days and forty nights. Moses led the Hebrew people out of bondage in Egypt, but they wandered forty years in the desert before reaching the promised land. Elijah fasted and sought God's will on Mount Horeb for forty days. Jonah prophesied the destruction of Nineveh in forty days.

The Code of Canon Law states that Fridays throughout the year and in the time of Lent are penitential days for the entire Church. Although fasting usually refers to any practice of restricting food, there is a distinction, in the Church, between fast (limiting food to one full meal a day, with two smaller meals allowed) and abstinence (abstaining from eating meat.) Abstinence from meat on Fridays as the universal form of penance on all Fridays is no longer mandatory. We may choose another way of observing the Church's requirement for acts of penance on Fridays, but we are not to neglect it, either.

Since the change in the abstinence rules, some people have become confused about the requirement to observe penitential days. As a result, the discipline of fasting (or abstaining from meat) or any form of regular penance has all but disappeared. Confession, or the Sacrament of Penance (or Reconciliation) has sharply declined, as well.

Both fast and abstinence are required on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday. For the record, rules of the Church in the United States about fasting and abstinence in effect since 1966 state that:

"Catholics in the United States are obliged to abstain from the eating of meat on Ash Wednesday and on all Fridays during the season of Lent. They are also obliged to fast on Ash Wednesday and on Good Friday. Self-imposed observance of fasting on all weekdays of Lent is strongly recommended. Abstinence from flesh meat on all Fridays of the year [excluding solemnities like Christmas which may fall on Friday] is especially recommended to individuals and to the Catholic community as a whole." (ref. Canons 1249-1253, Code of Canon Law)
(See also Fast and Abstinence page for more information on the practice.)

Fasting and abstinence, which foster self-discipline and self-denial and other beneficial spiritual exercises, are strongly encouraged as voluntary practices at any time of the year. But it will be the responsibility of families, as the "domestic Church", to foster this spiritually energizing practice, not only during the required Lenten days, but at other times as well. To fast willingly, in reparation for our own sins and for others, can transform not only our own lives, but the life and vitality of the larger community.

As Pope Leo I stressed in the 5th century, the purpose of fasting is to foster pure, holy, and spiritual activity. It is an act of solidarity that joins us to Christ ­ an act of self-donation in imitation of His total self-sacrifice. Fasting can heighten our understanding of Christ's Mystical Body, the Church, and of our total dependence on His love and mercy.

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Monday, February 15, 2010

Pre-cana talk 2010

On Saturday,  Mr. Pete and I gave our Pre-Cana talk on Marriage as a Sacrament and making a Christian home. In the past, I have posted the entirety of our talk on this blog, like this.  I did something a little different this year, and got a video recording of the talk and posted it on Youtube - you can view it
here.

I think overall the day went fine. The entire Pre-Cana team is very experienced and most of us have been doing this for years. The food was very good and my friend in charge of the food even went out of her way to accommodate a young lady with some sort of food allergy, which was appreciated.

Couples are required to take some sort of marriage prep before they can be married in the Catholic Church. I know that can be a drag to give up an entire Saturday for this sort of thing, but we try to make it enjoyable. The room is decorated for Valentine's day and there are plenty of snacks and sweets and a nice dinner for the couples including a beautiful wedding cake served at the end of the day.
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We also always end the day with a time for some scripture and prayer over at the church complete with quiet live music, before we give them their certificates and send them home.

The couples have a chance to also evaluate us. The most common complaint is that the seats are hard and that they are uncomfortable for an entire day. That's probably true but I'm not sure what we could do about it. They also evaluate the various talks they heard all day. I read through them quickly before I left on Saturday night. The majority of them really gave the entire day very high marks. A great many of them really felt that the talk on money and finance was the most important - not surprising in an economy like this one. I wonder if our parish would benefit by hosting a Financial Peace Seminar?

Of course it's the nay-sayers that always spur my imagination and make me tweak the talk for the following year. One of folks wrote that they didn't see what any of it had to do with marriage... sigh...

Some said there were too many stories, others thought there was too much reading from the script. One (and I can't remember if it was a guy or a gal) resented "having children crammed down his/her throat" and that "not every one can have children and adoption is expensive." I actually had wondered when some one would ask about infertility in marriage and no one ever has. Too bad this person didn't raise their hand and ask the question so everyone could hear the answer. But I will make sure that I cover that specifically in next year's talk.

Anyway - Mr. Pete and I enjoyed giving our talk. I sure wish we had more of an opportunity to talk in front of groups so that we wouldn't feel so rusty every year!

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Sam video recorded it this year and if you'd like to hear it go to my Youtube Channel.

Here's our opening:

Simple Woman


Outside my window...
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I am thinking...
about the Pre-Cana weekend we had for engaged couples over the weekend. For the eighth year, Peter and I gave the talk on Marriage as a Sacrament/Making a Christian Home. I'm hoping to have clips of our talk up on Youtube later today.


I am thankful for...
for my 30 years of marriage, for my children and for all of our experiences and there are very few things I would go back and change. I looked at those young couples on Saturday and just knew that some of them didn't have a clue about what they were really getting into - on the other hand maybe neither did I back then...

From the learning rooms...
Noah has learned ALL OF THE PRESIDENTS! And I hope to have that on Youtube as well. His reward will be going out to Pizza Hut for a Book It reward!
We continue with The Screwtape Letters and A Philadelphia Catholic in King James's Court with Gabe in preparation for confirmation. The kids want today off though for Presidents day and because of my busy weekend, I'm inclined to let them.

From the kitchen...
Sweet and sour chicken thighs!

I am wearing...
Black pants and blue long-sleeved top and a hoodie.

I am creating...
more room in my house this week as my oldest is moving out on his own next weekend.

I am going...
the the last of the stuff out of storage of my mother's. Gosh I hate to do that.  It's like she really will be gone when the stuff is all gone, or assimilated into our stuff.

I am reading...

The Divine Office for Dodos: A Step-By-Step Guide to Praying the Liturgy of the Hours.  again. Peter and I have the authentic The Liturgy of the Hours Volume II - Lent and Easter that my mom had. It's part of the Liturgy of the Hours 4 Volume Set.  She didn't appear to have the other three volumes though.  Anyway I think we might like this better than the little Breviary we started with.


I am hoping...
to try out some of my new workouts from The FIRM this week.

I am hearing...
Gabe take a shower.

Around the house...

Quiet.  My nephew Paul has been staying the weekend with us.  He really has turned into a delightful young man and I think he has been having a lot of fun with us.

A few plans for the rest of the week:
finish cleaning my office, hit my goal for my typing and getting a lot of laundry done and losing two pounds!

A picture I am sharing:  
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Mr. Pete and me at the Pre-Cana talk this past weekend.






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