Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

A family reunion

Once again my family trekked north to Michigan to enjoy the fellowship with our distant family members. My grandfather was the second of 10 children. Each year, for as long as I can remember, those 10 along with their spouses and children would gather to ask God's Blessing, eat, laugh, talk and otherwise catch up and renew. These reunions are bright spots in my memories of growing up.

I remember... staying at my great-grandma Wertie's house and getting a chance to brush her long gray hair before her daughters put it up into a bun for her. I remember watching little boys eating apples, walking bare foot and playing with the cats. I remember each one of my great aunts and uncles were so different, so funny and sweet. I remember home baked pies, and softball games, volley ball and stories. And their stories of growing up in Northern Michigan got into my DNA.

As an adult, Mr. Pete and I have kept up the tradition, first as an engaged couple and then married and then with kids. I'll never forget the reunion when the family included Mr. Pete in one of the skits - he and several other inlaws and and various cuzins were left holding a laundry cord and  the punch line was some fishing reference to "suckers on a line." Everyone cracked up - that's when I knew Mr. Pete was now a complete honorary part of the extended family. Or the time that two other family husbands kidnapped Mr. Pete almost as soon as he got out of the van on our arrival. He had his own "niche" in the family.

There was a bit of time when the original ten started to get old and die away. That was always sad. One reunion was held inside the town hall and the cousin holding it that year spent so much time reminiscing and crying over what was gone that it was a real downer. I think that's the year my son Calvin decided he would no longer return. He wasn't the only one. There is a chronic list of second and third generation cousins that aren't coming to the reunions. I wouldn't know these folks if I passed them on the street.

But yet there is another group of us that have taken the ball and run with it. Some of the younger first cousins and us middle-aged second cousins are changing the way the reunion works and dividing the workload. And kids are showing up and having a blast!  Last year I took over the daunting task of sending out the reminders for the reunion and even putting it up on Facebook.  This was after another cousin had taken the initiative to put everyone's information into digital form. For the last four years the reunion has bounced around between three different houses that live in the immediate area but next year a little committee is going to find a park for us to gather in.  It'll work!  and we're already looking forward to it!

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Keeping cousins close!
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Aunt Dot keeps order!
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An all round good time!

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