Writing a letter to your confirmation candidate

It seems that one of the biggest events in confirmation preparation in this country is the letters of support to be given to the confirmation candidates during their mandatory retreats.

I have three such letters saved on this blog:

Confirmation letter to my daughterConfirmation letter to my fourth sonConfirmation letter to to my third son
I've asked my children what they remember about the letter they got from me and their dad, and also what they remembered about the letters they received. 
The answer was not much, or at least nothing specific. In general they were happy to have gotten a bag full of letters and there was a sense of feeling loved and supported. I guess that's the main thing - for them to have a sense that this is an important step in their spiritual growth, and that people they know, love and respect have taken the time out of their lives to let them know that! So here are some tips on procuring and writing letters for young confirmation candidates. Start thinkin…

What keeps a marriage together? - Lessons from Little House

First posted August 11, 2004.

Calvin and Helen Leckrone

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A few years ago, I read several blog articles about the decline of marriage in the United States. The blogger suggested that the problem with marriage is that we are working too much for too little and that is the primary reason that marriages break up.

While the blogger continued to work out his plan for saving marriage (something about paid time off for just about everything) I  couldn't help but think about the Laura Ingalls Wilder Little House Books. If you haven't read Mrs. Wilder's "Farmer Boy" I would suggest it as a nice winter read for children or adults. What struck me though about the story of Almanzo Wilder and his family was how much WORK they did all day long. For Mrs. Wilder, life was a continuous ongoing attempt to keep the family fed through a hearty breakfast, to a huge lunch and an even bigger dinner! In between times, of course, there was laundry, housework, mending etc., but the biggest part of her day was getting enough calories into the men so that they could sustain the hard work they were doing outside on the farm! There were no fast foods, frozen dinners, drive through at McDonald's. This was all from scratch, from the farm or the market, tasty, simple, home cooking.

The men were busy taking care of livestock, planting, cultivating, sowing, repairing, day in and day out throughout the seasons regardless of the weather.

At night they read a bit, but basically when the sun went down, so did the Wilders. It seems to me that they had less "quality" time together than the average American Worker, for certainly less pay and definitely more hard physical labor. Yet, THEIR marriages stayed together!

Come to think of it, my own grandparents worked pretty hard too. My grandfather worked the farm at night, but during the day he worked on the assembly line for Chevrolet. My grandma did housework, farm work and even worked as a church secretary for a time. They were married until my grandmother's death after 52 years of marriage. I don't think the hard work, the low pay and the lack of "quality time" hurt their marriage and I'd venture to guess that since the divorce rate didn't start soaring until the 1960s, that there are other more primary factors that are tearing marriages apart nowadays.

Maybe what we can learn from the example in Farmer Boy, is that good hard work, done through and for our vocation as husband and wife, is actually good for a marriage. And that an early bedtime can't hurt either!

Happy Birthday Laura Ingalls Wilder (1)